Freeloading fiancee is driving me effing nuts!!!!!!!!!!!

Leah - posted on 11/08/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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If I don't vent about this to someone I am going to lose it. I am a mom of 3 school aged school kids and I have been divorced for about 6 years. I have been with my bf/fiancee for almost 4 years. He is a great man and truly my best friend, however he literally does NOTHING except cook dinner. He doesn't work at all..I mean at all! I run my own business from home. His days consist of laying on his ass in bed and watching videos all day. Any time I ask him to do something during the day like the laundry or wash the dogs, he says 'sure' but he never ever does it and I end up doing it! He never says anything either about it, just watches me clean up around him while he lays around doing nothing. Did I mention he is younger then me? He acts like someone older then me in every single way except his inability to get a job and help around the house. We have arguments, usually around that time of month, because I just can't keep it pushed down anymore, and then he acts like a baby whenever I bring it up that he should help out more. This has literally been going on foreverrrr! We live out in the mountains so not a lot of people around, I don't have any girl friends that I can call or hang out with, I am so lonely for a friend to just vent about my day and my frustrations to someone who actually gives a shit! I feel I am fighting a losing battle and yet I know he is wonderful to my children and he has helped me overcome a lot of my things from my past, but his laziness is going to ruin something beautiful. I can't even talk to him about it anymore, he just gets defensive and acts like a child and tells me how he cooks and the kids have never been better. Thats it, his only 2 things he falls back on. He then says he will do more, but it never happens. Take today for instance, yesterday he told me how today he was going to be outside all day raking leaves and that he would give our dogs a bath since its been 2 weeks since the last one (he has been saying for over a week he would do it). So, shocker, he sits in bed all day watching movies on netflix instead. So after I work ALL day I go out and rake leaves, then I wash both dogs, clean the kitchen and do laundry AND he wants me to fix dinner tonight! Do you think he says anything about what I have done? Like ' honey I would have done that, let me help you'!!! NO of course not. I am so unhappy and he only gets mad when I am unhappy, saying I am 'unstable' because I can't friggin stand being in the same room with him. I am so tired of this shit, and I am lonely and sad. I want a partner, I don't care that he doesn't work, but for Gods sake he should pull his weight in other ways. I could really use a friend and some advice. Thanks for listening

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