I think I deserve an actual break

Krista - posted on 02/12/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Ok, I am new to this so please excuse me if it takes a while to respond. But I am a single mother of a 18 month old boy. I have no communication with the father. I live at home with my parents and I go to school full time. I got pregnant when I was 19 and had my kiddo when I was 20. Since I have had him I have spent 1 night away from him because i was super sick. He slept down the hall with my parents. My brother lives in his own house with his wife and has 2 kids. My parents have always offered to watch their kids and their kids are staying the night about twice a month. While the my brothers kids are over here at my parents house, my brother and his wife are out having fun and getting a break. I have tried to talk to my parents about this and they say that I have no need to have a break. That my son here with his grandparents, they never get a break from him. I am not financially ready to move out yet. 24/7 I have had my child his whole life, with the exception of days that I have class, which is usually a total of 9 hours a week. If I go somewhere I take him with me. My mother constantly complains if I need to go to the college to study, because then she has to watch him. I am fed up with them acting like this. My brother and his wife get a break almost every weekend!!!! All I want is a break once in a while. I don't think this is alot to ask for. I have brought this up to my mother and all she says is that I get a break when I am at school. No, I do not find this a break. I find a break being going out with some friends for a couple hours and just having fun. I am 21 now and I just feel that this is unfair. But they don't see it. So what do yall think??


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Melmarie17 - posted on 02/23/2012




I had my son at 19. I feel like maybe there stil holding it over your head that your in this situation. I feel trapped too(similar situations) but don't be afraid to speak up an say you need a day out Eith friends. Seems like you deserve it and your prooving it!

Karen - posted on 02/16/2012




If its not something that you abuse, then why can't your brother and his wife keep your son for a couple hours every now and then? If they drop their kids off, they must realize how important it is to have a personal life, right?

Is there a reason you haven't asked them? They already have 2, so whats one more for a few hours? Family is family but offering $20 would definitely sweeten the deal and maybe help with any guilt you might feel for asking.

I have no one to babysit for me. I literally have no one I can ask. If I was 21, I would be going insane. I don't think its selfish to want it, but you may have to find a sitter other than your parents. From what you have said, it seems like they just want to be grandparents now, not parents.

Michelle - posted on 02/12/2012




I understand where your coming from but the reality is they have your little guy all the time as well if they take him so you can go out with your friends then yes you get a break but when do they get a break. Even when you are home the little guy is still there your parents don't get a break. I understand you are single and young and want a life but you are a mom now and unfortunately if you want a break you may need to pay someone to come and babysit the little guy your parents are doing more then their fair share. We live with my parents and my mom has my daughter more often then we do as I not only have a 2 year old I have an 11 year old as well, so when I am running him to all his stuff or at work my daughter is with my mom. Even when my husband is home my daughter is still with her grandparents because she prefers to be with grandma washing dishes or painting or doing crafts so we make a point of taking her out of the house every weekend for a few hours so my mom gets a break and by doing that she then doesn't mind us having some us time occasionally. So I think maybe you need to sit down and look for a reliable babysitter who can watch your little guy every once and awhile so all of you can get a break. Maybe even talk to your brother and his wife maybe they would be willing to watch the little guy so you all can get a well deserved breaks.

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