1 year old won't sleep all night

Tiffany - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned one, and she USE to sleep all night, and take decent naps, but for the past month or so (maybe more) she is fighting naps, and now screams when I lay her down. She has always gone to sleep on her own, but now just screams. She is even waking up in the middle of the night screaming and won't calm down until I put her in bed with me, then sleeps fine. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

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Some babies need more comfort than others. Mine didn't sleep through the night until he was three. I was fine with that because we co-slept and I could just roll other and hold him or talk quietly until he went back to sleep. The worse thing I ever did was listen to someone at work who insisted he would and should sleep through the night in his own room. Not understanding at the time I let him 'cry it out' but that just did not work for him - he just did not stop wailing until after an hour I went in and held him. The crying was very distressing for both of us and I learned that what worked for others did not necessarily work for us.

Mindee - posted on 05/14/2010

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Maybe she's having nightmares and she finds comfort in being near you. Is her bed in your room or down the hall? Having her toddler bed near your bed could help. Like all phases, this one won't last forever, so if having her bed near you and and getting her to sleep before she's exhausted doesn't work, then I fully support letting her lay with you in bed. I always ask myself, "Is this a need or a want?" If it's a need for my daughter, then I do what I can to meet it. If it's a want, then it's situational. Good luck. Parenting is anything but easy.

Kate - posted on 05/14/2010

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Teething sounds like a good guess to me too. Our now 2yr old went thru similar phase when she was getting teeth. It seemed to last for weeks at a time. Some teeth breaking thru are more painful than others. The Teething Tablets seemed to help during the day (w motrin if she seemed to be in a lot of pain). Nights seemed to be the worst and the motrin worked well. Good luck it's so hard since they can't tell us what's wrong.

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Lindsey - posted on 05/14/2010

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My son was the same way. I was never a "cry it out mom" but when his sleep habits started interfering with everyone elses sleep I had to try it. I worked. He would cry for a bit before falling asleep. When he would wake in the middle of the night I would just cover him up and soothe him. Sometimes he would cry sometimes he wouldn't.
If you keep getting DD out of bed she will never stop.
You have to be strong and she has to learn another way. I know it is hard to just make your baby cry...I was there! If you are going to make her stay in her bed or what not you arent supposed to talk to her.
Good luck...

Jessica - posted on 05/14/2010

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i always put both my kids to sleep in my arms and they would wake up in the middle of the night and not go back to sleep until i went into there rooms and picked them up..so i never slep.until i just let them cry it out ...with my little girl she did the same as your where at first she slep all night...but now that i make sure she isnt cutting a tooth or anything i just let her cry it out and she sleeps all night or only wakes up once but goes back to sleep..ur little girl may be going thur separation anxiety that is normal for this age..just let her know youll be there every morning and after her nap to have fun with and shell grow out of it..keep ur head up..youll make it and ur a good mom...

Gwen - posted on 05/14/2010

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If you don't want her to end up in your bed permanently, I wouldn't advise using that as a "temporary" solution. My daughter went through similar phases. If all else failed and I laid her in bed w/ me, I only let her stay there for 5 minutes before putting her back in the crib. Sometimes she just needed a change of scenery to "snap out of" her crying fit. We'd look out the window for a minute or try the rocking chair in the living room. Eventually that phase passed and we moved on to the next one :-)

Ruthy - posted on 05/13/2010

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I also found my eleven month old started screaming more, was increasingly fighting naps and more aware as he got older. So, I make she it's SUPER quiet and dark and I put him down BEFORE he's exhausted, meaning he is not OVER-tired. That's key since it's no-win situation if your baby is overtired. My baby sleeps well, cries now a bit- less than a minute for his morning nap, when he naps the best since my older two are at school and not home, but the afternoon is a struggle and he'll often skip that nap or like today, scream his head off for a long time- 20+ minutes and is determined not to sleep when he hears the kids, action in the house. Do you have other kids, other noises, things going on? My little guy is almost a year and takes his morning nap every day about three hours after waking up. I hope that helps. As for night, my little one used to wake up at night when he slept in my room. When I changed it to my daughter's who is a heavy sleeper, he sleeps well and doesn't wake during the night and frankly if he did, we'd do the same thing we did when he was 5+ months, we let him cry since a miserably exhausted mommy is no good to anyone! He always wakes up happy. : ) Good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 05/13/2010

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Thanks girls! I've taken her to the Dr. and everything is fine. If this is a stage I really hope its a short one :)

Rebecca - posted on 05/08/2010

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This may not help but will give you some comfort. My son for a time there use to scream and cry if I tried to put him to sleep. I always put him to sleep in my arms. But it was just a phase and he stopped doing it after about 2 months. He sleeps fine now. Just like he use to (in my bed - we co-sleep with our son). He use to do just what you've explained there right down to the waking up crying.

Take her in for a check up and make sure it's not her teeth playing up. If nothing physical is wrong then I guess you just do what you can and wait the phase out.

Good luck.

Kristin - posted on 05/07/2010

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Is she teething? Could she possibly have and ear infection or some other illness? What about hayfever? It's been an awful spring for pollen and such. As long as this has been going on, talk to your pediatrician about it.

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