10 month old waking up in the night about 3-4 times for soother, any way to stop this?

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User - posted on 01/28/2009

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Hi all, thanks for the replies. Danielle, a soother is a dummy, pacifier!! Thats what we commonly call them in Ireland, or a doody!!

Amy - posted on 01/27/2009

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Quoting Tiffany:



Our first child started doing this right before she turned one.  My neighbor told me to get one of the baby einstein CD's or any soothing lullaby's.  I would go in and check on her....tell her she was fine, turn the music on and shut the door.  The first night she cried for almost an hour and then fell asleep.  The second night it took about 15 minutes.  By the third night she was back asleep within 5 minutes.  Still to this day I can turn on the Baby Einstein CD when she has a bad dream and she will go right back to sleep.  Letting her cry was extremely hard, but in the long run it was definitely worth it.  I was tired of getting up everynight and it taking a few hours to get her to go back to sleep.





So Tiffany,



My husband and I are going to try this method this weekend, did you daughter get so upset she sounded hysterical?  I mean, we started to try this last friday, but after about 8 mins I had to get him b/c he was almost hyperventilating.  It turned out that he was sick and didn't feel good so we ended it right then and there.  When he gets better, we are going to try again, but wasn't sure if we just let him get all worked up?  I went and checked on him every few minutes and tried to soothe him, but it didn't seem to help very much.  Any pointers?  Also, when your daughter did wake up in the middle of the night, did you soothe her, or just let her cry and check on her?

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2009

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Our first child started doing this right before she turned one.  My neighbor told me to get one of the baby einstein CD's or any soothing lullaby's.  I would go in and check on her....tell her she was fine, turn the music on and shut the door.  The first night she cried for almost an hour and then fell asleep.  The second night it took about 15 minutes.  By the third night she was back asleep within 5 minutes.  Still to this day I can turn on the Baby Einstein CD when she has a bad dream and she will go right back to sleep.  Letting her cry was extremely hard, but in the long run it was definitely worth it.  I was tired of getting up everynight and it taking a few hours to get her to go back to sleep.

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2009

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Our first child started doing this right before she turned one.  My neighbor told me to get one of the baby einstein CD's or any soothing lullaby's.  I would go in and check on her....tell her she was fine, turn the music on and shut the door.  The first night she cried for almost an hour and then fell asleep.  The second night it took about 15 minutes.  By the third night she was back asleep within 5 minutes.  Still to this day I can turn on the Baby Einstein CD when she has a bad dream and she will go right back to sleep.  Letting her cry was extremely hard, but in the long run it was definitely worth it.  I was tired of getting up everynight and it taking a few hours to get her to go back to sleep.

Tiffany - posted on 01/27/2009

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Our first child started doing this right before she turned one.  My neighbor told me to get one of the baby einstein CD's or any soothing lullaby's.  I would go in and check on her....tell her she was fine, turn the music on and shut the door.  The first night she cried for almost an hour and then fell asleep.  The second night it took about 15 minutes.  By the third night she was back asleep within 5 minutes.  Still to this day I can turn on the Baby Einstein CD when she has a bad dream and she will go right back to sleep.  Letting her cry was extremely hard, but in the long run it was definitely worth it.  I was tired of getting up everynight and it taking a few hours to get her to go back to sleep.

Aleksandra - posted on 01/27/2009

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Try a mix of giving back the soother and letting the little one cry it out a bit... inconsistency helped with my kids. Slowly, they learned to sooth themselves.

Luana - posted on 01/27/2009

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my twins did this to me for 6 month when they were babies .when i finally couldn't take it anymore i decided to let them cry ,it was hell for about a week and then they finaly stoped and i was able to sleep .if you decide to do this ,brace yourself it will be very hard on you and your partner( no parent likes to hear they're baby cry) i actualy cried too but if you hang in there it will get better ,i promise! Good luck to you.

Danielle - posted on 01/27/2009

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It depends what is the "soother?" If it is you, you can start to fade yourself by soothing her to almost asleep, then leaving, next time soother her a little less, continue to sooth but a little less each time making sure that she is able to fall back to sleep a current level of soothing before decreasing anymore. The idea is to decrease her dependency on you to soothe herself back to sleep and increase her ability to soothe herself back to sleep as it is normal for babies and adults to wake in the night the difference is that we soothe ourselves back to sleep.

Veronica - posted on 01/27/2009

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When my girls did this (so long ago!) once I made sure nothing was wrong by peeking, I had to just let them comfort themselves. It was one of the hardest things to do at that age but letting them find their own ways to sleep early on helps so much in the long run. Maybe even try spritzing their blanket or lovey w/ your body spray so it smells like you, but after the first night that we just let her soothe herself, there was a big difference. But I will stress it was much harder on me than her! I hated hearing them cry knowing they just want me, but we need rest too! Good luck!

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