10 months and still no sleep

Monique - posted on 05/22/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My 10 month old little boy still wants to sleep with me. I really dont mind that but my husband says thats why he doesnt sleep through the night. He seems to hate his crib. He wakes up so terrified everytime hes in it. Does anyone else have this issue?

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Jamie - posted on 05/25/2010

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I got very lucky with my daughter. She has been sleeping through the night since she was 7 weeks old. Idk what i would have done if she didnt sleep through the night. Her father works 3rds so i am stuck with her. I work and go to school. Her sleeping throught the night is a big issue for me. The only time she didnt sleep through the night was when she was breaking teeth. She never slept in our bed. I didnt want to make that mistake. Her dad is a bed hog enough. If she would sleep with us i think i would end up in her crib. Lol. Does ur baby like binkeys? I have a binkey baby. Which i dont recommend to start him on it but it does help my daughter fall asleep. We r recently trying to take it away and shes putting up a fight and is starting to win. :( I hope he starts sleeping through the night for u.

Candice - posted on 05/24/2010

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I hate to say it but the only reason the kids are doing that is because they know you will give in, and that's what they are used to, To only way is doing tough love and letting them yell it out, you don't have to be neglectful, let them know you are there, but make their crib comfy and inviting, and make them sleep there through the day, it's going to be tough for you, but in 2 weeks it should be good, I recommend What to Expect the Firtst Year, it gives amazing suggestions! Just remember you are the partent if your child is making all the decisions now what it going to be like when they are a teenager?? And Good for you Melissa!!!! Way to stick to it!!

Leona - posted on 05/24/2010

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yes my daughter is 18 months and she is always sleeping with me, i dont believe in my kids sleeping in my bed so i end up on the couch most of the time. Then when i try put her in her bed she wakes up screaming, I have no idea how to get her not so attached to me??

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2010

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I had the same issue with my oldest, she didn't sleep thru the night until she was 13 months old and I had just gotten pregnant with our second. Ultimately the one thing that ended up working for us was the Supernanny's method. It's where you do your bedtime routine and then put the child in their bed and sit on the floor, no eye contact just sit there and wait til they go to sleep. If they get up just lay them back down, no talking and no eye contact. Keep doing this as long as it takes. Every night move a little farther from the crib/ bed doing the same thing. Before you know it you will be out of the room. After about a week in my case, she was sleeping thru the night and has been ever since. They just have to get used to being in their own bed. Its actually healthier for them in the long run to learn to fall asleep on their own. This is the method I would reccommend to anyone! It worked like a charm, but you have to stick with it. It may take hours of doing the same thing over and over, but thats all a part of parenting. Kids learn from repatition.If you do, you won't regret it and all of you will be getting a better nights sleep.

Lilian - posted on 05/24/2010

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I have the same issue. My 7.5 mos old son cries 45 minutes every night regardless of where he is sleeping. If he is sleeping in my bed then he wakes up between 5-10 times a night since he wants to nurse. In his crib, he cries the 45 minutes and then sleeps 11-12 hrs. I was exhausted. I did not like him crying, yet he cries in his crib, our bed, or pack and play anyway. I did the CIO believe me it is not easy and it has been a slow process. Consistency is key! Otherwise it will not work and its very hard! I just felt I could not be a good mom if I was so exhausted and he seems so much happier when he sleeps!

Lyla - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have the crib right beside our bed and we recently just took off the one side railing so he is apart of our bed its same level as our bed

its great

Emily - posted on 05/23/2010

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He wants to sleep next to you because he loves you and he feels safe next to you. Just give him some time. He will not want to sleep in your bed forever. In 10 years when he's driving you crazy and not wanting to be around you you'll be missing the sweet baby snuggle times! And no, I don't think that's the reason he's not sleeping through the night. Every baby will eventually sleep through when they're ready, whether they co-sleep or not.

Lilian - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have the same issue with my 7.5 mos old. He cries for 45 minutes before going to sleep every night whether he is in his crib, the car, our bed, his pack and play, or his bouncy, The only place he does not cry is his swing. When I did CIO finally, he sleeps for 11 or 12 hrs after. I don't know why he still cries for 45 minutes before going to sleep. He will not nap anywhere else besides the swing as well which means I have to sit there with him since he is getting pretty big for the swing.

Brandie - posted on 05/23/2010

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if its at all possible you could try putting the crib in your room to start?maybe take something out of your room and put it in his to make room.. once he is comfortable there maybe move it back to his room and camp out in there for a bit.. not ideal but difinaltely worth a try...

Kate - posted on 05/23/2010

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Yes I do, you would be suprised how many babies and kids for that matter want to sleep with their mum and dads. My little girl child no 3 is 2 and is still in my bed. I have accepted co-sleeping now and think that when she is ready she will go to her own bed, no matter how long that takes, my older two did the same and they are and have been in their own bed for a long time now (9 & 7). Just be patient enjoy the cuddles becasue when they grow up they won't give a crap whether your their or not lol.

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2010

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Well ,I don't know if this will help or not, but I was going thru the same thing with my son, But I lost that fight.... he has been sleeping in my bed since he was born, (not because he had 2, just because he would cry for hours if i put him in his crib). he's 4 and he still HAS 2 "snuggle" b4 he goes to bed in HIS bed. But he just started(last week) sleeping all night in his bed. He used to wake in the middle of the night and end up in my bed with me til morning. I think that if I would have put my foot down sooner I wouldn't be going thru this now. good luck, and STAY STRONG. :):):)

Charmaine - posted on 05/23/2010

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My little miss is 2 and a half and still doesn't sleep through. Our bed, her bed, even tried her in her brothers bed. Nothing makes her sleep through. I think its just her.

Meghan - posted on 05/23/2010

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I had that exact issue with my son! I had to wait until he weaned himself from nursing and then do a controlled version of CIO. He is 19 months now and sleeps through the nite (unless he is teething or has a nite terror) and I just got him in a big boy bed this week!

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