13 month old not sleeping through the night.

Brooke - posted on 11/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




When she was first born, I thought we had it really good. At three months she was sleeping through the night and waking up at eleven. Yet at four or five months it all changed. She wakes up twice in the night, once for a bottle. I know it's bad for her teeth so I've tried to water the bottle down. Yet, I can't just let her scream as I live in a house with a lot of working people and people that have to go to school in the morning. If she cries for more than ten minutes at night they freak out. I usually end up bringing her into bed with me and as a result get no sleep. Someone help PLEASE!


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Ayesha - posted on 11/13/2014




I think Chet MC's advice is really great.
I found that my daughter also regressed with regards to sleeping through the night. As hard as it is right now, this will pass as well.
I think that keeping her awake time to the minimum by not stimulating her is the best thing. If you can, keep the lights down, feed her if need be and put her back down as quickly as possible. This way hopefully, she realizes that this is not play time and goes back to sleep right away. Also, agree with Chet MC that slowly wean her off the milk and onto water so she doesn't get used to feeling full.

Dove - posted on 11/13/2014




She's normal. I have two that night weaned themselves and slept through the night at 14 months (they did at 6 months too, but only for a month) and one that did not night wean or sleep through the night until 2 years old.

Chet - posted on 11/13/2014




We have four kids. They honestly slept the best during their first few months of life. I found that with older babies and young toddlers there was always something - teething, growth spurt, developmental burst, being overtired, separation anxiety, cold, cough, dreaming... not to mention, combinations of the above, and bizarre mystery sleep disruptions that vanished as suddenly as they appeared with no real explanation.

Take comfort in knowing that a child who slept well once will sleep well again. I eventually become suspicious of sleep training because a lot of the methods claimed to work in two or three weeks, and very often, things would improve on their own in a couple of weeks! Of course, then the baby would catch a cold, or cut a tooth, or drop a nap, or something and we'd go through it again.

I definitely had lots of moments in the middle of the night when I seriously wondered if we were wrecking the baby, and if we needed to do something dramatic to put an end to this, but after the first couple kids I came to believe (that for us at least) I just needed to make the sleep disruptions as non-eventful as possible and to do what we needed to do to maximize sleep for everyone.

A bottle at night is not ideal, but baby teeth are only one part of the whole baby. I don't fault parents for making the executive decision that the bottle is necessary sometimes. Work on cutting it out. Work on diluting to the point of just giving warm water.

I think the biggest thing that helped was keeping the night waking as short and un-stimulating as possible. Get to your baby as quickly as you can. If you're giving a bottle try to figure out a way to have the bottle ready as fast as possible. Keep things as quiet and dark and boring as possible.

If your baby will fall asleep with you, but you can't sleep with her, consider putting a mattress on the floor in her room. Lay down with her there when she goes back to sleep and then leave once she's sound, or when she's close to it if you can.

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