15 and pregnant

Maci - posted on 01/31/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




Im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been together for going on three years. Both of my parents dont like him because of mistakes hes made in the past. But ive recently found out that im pregnant with his baby. Im terrified to tell my parents, i understand that they will be disappointed, but im scared they will never forgive me. I want to keep my baby and be a family with my boyfriend, but i dont know how to tell my parents. Please help. Also, my boyfriend is 17 ad will be 18 in a few months, he graduated early and has a good job being a construction worker right now, he wants us to get an apartment together over summer and i would like to as well, but im sure my parents wouldn't let me. What would you do if you found out your child was going through this?


Ev - posted on 01/31/2016




First things first. You need to sit down and talk to your parents and tell them what is going on. They will be upset so expect it. As of now, all of your dreams and wishes are going to take a back seat to this baby that you plan to keep. You are going to need their help and support to get through this. They are going to have to come to terms with this boy being the father and its going to take them time.
Second, you need to find a doctor and start getting prenatal care ASAP. It is important to you and the child. Even though your body is able to be pregnant, your body is also still developing too. Having a child this young can pose some issues during pregnancy and so it is important there is a doctor to care for you. Follow all his or her directions for a safe and healthy pregnancy.
Third, I would less worry about where you and the baby are going to live right now. You and the father are very young. Just because he wants to get a place and make this family work, you have to understand one thing: It is an overwhelming thing to become a parent as an adult and even more so as a teenager. Just because he has a good job and is willing right now to do this stuff does not mean he is going to be there with you for always. You both will change over time and may not want to be together. Its a big deal when raising a child with someone. Its not like having a dog or doll to play with. That child is going to need your constant attention.
Fourth, have you thought about completion of school? College? Child care for the baby while you do these things? How will you support yourself if he leaves? How will you get to places (15 years old does not have a drivers license yet)? How will you get the things your baby needs? Yes, his offer to get a place and all for you guys is good but he might just not follow through. What then?
Fifth, you life has changed greatly in such a short time. YOu are not going to be able to do the things most teens take for granted such as hanging with friends, just going places at a moments notice, dating, proms and dances, ball games and so on. YOur baby will come first. He will still be able to go and do as he pleases too.
This is just stuff to think about. But the first one do. Your parents can be essential in all this helping and supporting you.


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Dove - posted on 01/31/2016




Honestly... I would flip the heck out as 15 is way too young to have a boyfriend or have sex... and I would have done everything in my power to avoid this from becoming a situation in the first place.

But... I know that a determined teenager is going to do what they are going to do, so after I calmed down we would sit down and talk about it and get them into the doctor right away. I would not be supportive of them moving out to live w/ their boyfriend at such a young age, but would try and help them all foster a good co-parenting situation in a split home up until my daughter graduated from high school.

Michelle - posted on 01/31/2016




Evelyn has said it all very well.
There is a lot for you to think about and you need to tell your parents ASAP. Yes they will be upset but the sooner you tell them the better.
Don't even think of moving in with your boyfriend at the moment. You are still a child and your parents are responsible for you until you are 18.

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