16 and pregnant.

Micaela - posted on 06/15/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )




I just recently found out I was pregnant and I am so scared and confused. I don't know what to do. I have always been against abortion but that seems like the easiest solution. I just know I wouldnt forgive myself that though. I would give it up for adoption but I honestly don't think I would be able to carry my baby for 9 months then just hand over to someone else. I would also keep it but that means I have to take responsibility and say goodbye to my teen years. I just know financially that would be so hard to keep. My mom says she is going to support me no matter what I decide but we aren't good financially at all. I really don't know what path to take. I need as much advice I can get right now. Please tell me what you guys have to say. What you think.


Raye - posted on 06/16/2015




I had an abortion when I was 16 years old. It was the right choice for me, but I won't tell you that it's what you should do. If you have any doubt about it, then I would say don't have an abortion. You have to figure out what you feel is the right choice for you, and it's a hard decision.


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Jessica19_2008 - posted on 06/18/2015




i think u should try to get a job and there state assistance that can help you out and you'd be fine.....

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/16/2015




First: Great job researching options so far, and knowing what you will/won't be comfortable with. That takes a lot for a 16 YO.
Second, it's good that your mom is supportive.
Yes, having this baby means that you don't get to do the 'normal' teen things like go out, party, etc. But, you can still attend and graduate HS, and move forward with your life. No, it won't be easy.
Sarah has some very helpful suggestions, as do the rest of the ladies here.
Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 06/16/2015




Get connected with a crisis pregnancy center. Do a pros/cons list for both you and baby for each situation. You state that abortion seems easy....really it is not. You have to live with that for the rest of you life. It is a very permanent thing. You never get to meet and know your child. Before you cancel out adoption learn about it. You can still have contact with the child with adoption. Also look at what you said.....it is easier to kill your baby than to allow your baby to live....either with you or with someone else. Adoption is hard it is not easy to carry a baby for 9 mos. and then allow someone else to raise him/her, but it shows how much love you have for your child. You are willing to take the hurt so your child can live and have a good life. As stated before adoption does not mean you can't have contact with your child. There are many adoptions where the birth parent is involved in their child's life. Also look into parenting......what financial help is there. What would I have to "give up". What support would I have and how would that support look like.

Elissa - posted on 06/16/2015




You have alot going through your head. So calm down and try to relax. Everything will be ok. Then try to think about all your chooses. What ever you decide its a good choose because you are a great person and you are a strong young lady.

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