17yr old son

Donna - posted on 11/09/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 17yr old son is about to get kicked off his college course. He seems to think that because he doesnt know what he wants to do with his life he can do nothing. He wont get a part time job even tbough ive offered a cash reward if he does. He does struggle academically. Always has due to his mild autism. His bedroom is always full of rubbish and fruit cores banana skin etc. No amount of me telling him gets through. My frustrations have become enormous . Im completely stressed every single day. Ive been in tears almost every say for a week


Ev - posted on 11/09/2014




I have to agree that at 17 a kid usually does not know what they want to do when they grow up so to speak. So they can not exactly tell the people at the college that. That is why they have undeclared for majors until the kids have taken enough courses to decide what they might be interested in. As for his thinking he can do nothing, that is another issue. What are his interests? Have you started there? There has to be something he likes to do a lot. Also as for his cleaning his room and stuff, that is normal for a kid his age even with mild Autism. My son was diagnosed with it but is opposite of your son as far as having a clean/unclean room. He abhors an unclean house actually. He does have his chosen field and wants to be a mechanic. Offering cash reward to get a job or make a choice for career is not much more than a bribe and at 17 they do not need bribes. What you should be doing is taking him to the advisor's office and talking about what his options are and going from there.

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