18 and in dire need of advice

Emily - posted on 09/17/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm 18 and pregnant with my first. I really want to keep my baby and i know my family will be supportive of my decision no matter what i choose, but i feel like i have no choice any more.... i have to put my kid up for adoption... I really dont want to. i feel like i would be missing out on the greatest thing that could happen in my life but no one seems to understand that. My family is worried that ill regret my child, if i choose to keep it, and that ill be giving up my dreams. I have no idea what to tell them... i dont want to lose my life but i dont want to lose my baby either. I could use some serious advice. i'm 8 weeks and 1 day, so i still have time to think, but everytime i think i come to the same conclusion. giving up my baby would make my family happy...


Christina - posted on 09/17/2012




My story: I was 18 when I got pregnant... a year after high school graduation, still living at parents house, no job, on-again/off-again relationship, and barely making my way through college. When I first found out I was pregnant, I cried, and not tears of joy. I was miserable. For me, abortion was out of the question, but I was considering adoption. It took me 3 months before I finally accepted my pregnancy and knew I wanted to keep this baby. Once I was comfortable with that, I had to announce it to my family. It wasn't easy. Luckily my parents took it a lot better than I thought they would, but my boyfriend's parents flipped out. It was a few weeks of awkward silence before our families really started accepting my pregnancy. It wasn't until I started showing that it all set in and became reality. Something clicked and made me want to do right by this child. I got a job. My boyfriend proposed. We moved in together. The baby was born. The first 2 years was a struggle, but we did it. When I was 21 my fiancee and I bought our first house, when I was 22 we got married, when I was 24 I went back to school and graduated, and when I was 25 I got pregnant with my second child. I'm now 27 years old with a loving husband, 2 wonderful kids, my dream career, and the life I've always wanted... it just came A LOT sooner than planned. Did we hit road bumps? Absolutely. Did I have to make sacrifices? Without a doubt. Were there times I second guessed my decisions? Yes. Do I regret any of the decisions I've made? Not even one. I believe everything happens for a reason :)

Ultimately, you know what is best for you. You can ask for advice and seek support, but only YOU can make the final decision. It's your life. There are certain things you can "take back", but other things are permanent and can not be changed. Just be sure to investigate all options and possibilities before deciding on anything. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find peace soon... xo

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