18 year old son kicked out of cegep

Jayne - posted on 06/13/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My 18 year old son just got kicked out of cegep last week . He seems very unmotivated in his life. Says he has no idea what he wants to do in life . Most days when he is not working he seems happy to sit in his room on his laptop . He was never the most social of kids but the last two years of high school he seemed to get in with a good group and I was happy for him to go out etc. Now that group seem to have forgotten about him so he's at home all the time again. I'm at my wits end how to help him ...now we have the whole school issue as well . I'm crying everyday and notsleeping well . Any tips mums ?


Megan - posted on 06/13/2013




Lots of 18 year olds struggle with what to do with their lives. If your son isn't interested in further education right now, he is not alone. Focus on the good...he is working. What are his hobbies and interests? Can any of those translate into a career? Maybe he would be a great carpenter or something more hands on that requires less book type education. Be sure to increase your expectations of him around the house. He is an adult...if he is not taking steps toward an independent future and just hanging at home, then make sure he has chores and let him know you will expect rent and contributions toward utility bills. Write down the requirements then let him know beginning tomorrow these need to be accomplished. Adults have responsibilities...help your son by holding him to household responsibilities. Who pays for laptop and cell phone? Insist he start contributing. If he is not going to school, then insist he take one outside course...martial arts, rock climbing, fishing, weight lifting. But let him know he must find something positive to do outside the house at least three times a week. Tell him he has two days to write you a list of his choices. If he doesn't follow through, turn off his phone or the internet. No argument necessary. Hug him and say, I know growing up can be a challenge. Then walk away. Consider this book, it may help you worry less... http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0195309...

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