19 year old son is a complete jerk!

Debra - posted on 06/25/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )




Glad that I came across this place. I'm not a single mom, yet I feel like I play both mother/father to my son. My husband just doesn't feel like dealing with with my disrespectful son. That is another story and is absolutely rediculous. My son quit school at 17. Drinks, smokes pot and cigarettes. He is a complete ass! He verbally abuses me with curse words, has stolen jewelry from me and does not care, very unclean doesn't take showers wears dirty clothes, his bedroom is disgusting, and I could go on and on. Oh and he likes to blame me for everything. I have rules and as long as he lives here he needs to respect them. Yeah right. I'm at my wits end. All I want him to do is get his GED and quit drinking and the drugs and just get on a better path in life. That is all. I do love him but his actions and the way he treats me has come to an end. I want him out of my home. I'm just done. I don't know him anymore. I don't know or want to know this mean and nasty person he is right now. He turns 20 on July 18th. I told him he has to be out by then. It really saddens me but this is what must be done. Tough love my son.



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Debra - posted on 06/28/2015




Thank you everyone for all the encouraging words. They help more than you know. He is my only child so this has been VERY hard, but I'm standing my ground. Thank you again!

Mdm - posted on 06/27/2015




Your heart must be bleeding, but do take strong, many things are beyond our control in life.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/26/2015




I think you are taking a step in the right direction. He will have to move out, and figure out life, rather than rely on mom and dad to support him. Good on you! It will be tough, but you can do it! So can he! Good luck momma, stay strong!

Dove - posted on 06/26/2015




He has almost a month to make a choice to straighten up and abide by the house rules. I don't doubt it is pulling at your heart a little, but you are absolutely doing the right thing.

Raye - posted on 06/26/2015




He is legally an adult, and he's not acting like one. You are right to have rules in your home that he should follow if he wants to live there, and you are within your right to boot him out for being disrespectful and not abiding by those rules. it's hard, but sometimes you have to be tough.

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