19 years old with 1 year old, no independance or money of my own. How do I get out?

Savannah - posted on 06/18/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I've been putting up with my boyfriend ever since I saw that he wasn't the guy I thought he was. we have ben together for almost 5 years since we were early teens and i'm 19 now.Long story short since its in the heat of the moment, I think I'm being mentally abused. he is a complete asshole and has complete control over me.The reasons why ive stayed and put up with it is because of our daughter, my dependence, and i'm getting a tummy tuck that hes paying for that I desperately want. It's driving me crazy. It got so bad today I started hitting him. He wouldn't hand me the keys to "his" car which is only his when we fight, and all I needed was to leave the house (my mother in law's house, which is fucking horrible) and just get away for awhile to help myself calm down. Where do I start? what do I do? please help me


Cathy - posted on 06/18/2014




Well I was in the same situation ,When I first met him he was nice.I would go and visit him.But into the relationship I had messed up on him with his best friend.He then changed towards me.I still kept trying to push the relationship so it would work ,but that was the wrong thing to do he never had any respect for me till that day.I then moved in with him and it seemed as things started going down hill from there.He would mentally abuse me and said that he wasn't doing that .I was 19 when I met him and 20 when I got pregnant and was living with my mom for about 10 years then moved out with him bad idea.Well It's like you meet someone and at the time think you found someone nice but I think it's just an act just to get you where they want you.What I think you should do is you should just leave him and get him for child support.I was him him to for the kids but your daughter is seeing all this .Me and my boyfriend would argue in front of the kids because he wanted the kids to hear everything to make me look bad but when my son turned 15 started doing things I thought I wouldn't imagine he would do.He saw us arguing and at 18 moved out.I blame my boyfriend for all of this.Well the best thing to do if you get mad is just walk away because if you hit him you will go to jail it's not worth it.

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