2 babies under 3 and housework..am i a terrible mother?

Christina - posted on 12/12/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have 2 babies 13 months and the other almost 3 years old.

I am working full time and I go home around 5 in the afternoon. I spend all the time with them, feeding them, walking with my youngest, she also has problems with teething, playing with them. I don't have time for anything else..later at night when they sleep I don't have energy or power or mood to do anything.. My husband told me I have to ask his mother how she manage to raise two children and do the housework..hm..I have an issue with her..now we are "ok" but she lived with us few months and I didn't get along with her..she always had problem with us..everything disturbed her. I am not a lazy person, I like to wake up early in the morning...but it seems that I don't have a good program or I am just useless..maybe mother in law was right..I don't need a servant but a small help..at least until I gain my strength and more positive attitude..because right now I feel so bad and lost and helpless..


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Michelle - posted on 12/12/2012




I would be asking your husband what his last slave died of. If my husband DARED to say that to me he would not here the end of it.

I have 3 children, work full time, am secretary of the P&C at the school am am also studying part time. My husband do a lot of the cleaning but will help out when needed but would never dream of harassing me not doing things. It is also his job to do the dishes (since I cook every night), take the rubbish out and bath our youngest one each night.

S. - posted on 12/12/2012




Are you super woman? Dose your hb help with the cleaning? In my eyes you have your prioritise straight and the house work will be there tomorrow. Two kids under 3 is hard work especially after a full days work no wonder you don't want to clean your house who would!

When I worked, was a single parent and had one child I cleaned the house from top to bottom on one of my days off, then it was easier to keep tidy-ish throughout the week. Now I am married with 3 kids and I don't work I'll cook and clean but my hb dose the pots most nights and we both do the little one bed routine together.

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