2 year old purposely pooping on floor and nap and bedtime

Digioral - posted on 07/19/2018 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am in GREAT need of help/advice/ANYTHING. My 2 year old has been potty trained for about 4 months now. We potty trained when we did because she was telling us every time she pooped and peed and said she wanted use the potty. It was a BREEZE, we took diapers away and that was that. Not even a single accident. She has still been in a diaper and nap time and bedtime, though. Shortly after being potty trained, she learned how to climb out of her crib. We tried everything to keep her in, nothing worked, so we took the side off of her crib the week she turned 2. We did it because a) we couldn't have her unsafely climbing out of her crib every night and b) hoped that giving her the freedom she craved would satisfy her. Well then the literal sh*t hit the proverbial fan. Bedtime has been a NIGHTMARE ever since. She FREAKS OUT the second we so much as mention bedtime. It routinely takes 3 hours. She does the same thing at nap time. Every step of bedtime is a fight/power struggle. And now that we are in it I have no idea how to get out. She has to choose and then change her pajamas 13 times, she wants 100 books, more songs, etc. And we are very strict, we never give into it... but she still tries and then screams her brains out when we say no. And THEN, the second we leave the room at either put down, she rips off the diaper and poops on the floor. We have tried everything: taking away toys, ignoring her, yelling at her, making her clean, leaving her potty chair in there. Has anyone else had this experience? Can look at it with a clean pair of eyes? Sorry if this is ranty, I just finished cleaning poop off of my toddlers floor twice while she screamed her brains out at me.

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Digioral - posted on 07/24/2018

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I mean she is 100% potty trained, it isn't an issue of potty training. She is great during the day, uses the toilet on her own, etc. She is going to the bathroom on the floor in her room on purpose because she doesn't want to go to bed and this is something she can do/control to show her anger. We have tried different nighttime diaper variations (cloth, pull up, etc)... nothing works. Because for her it is about control and boundaries. We have tried ignoring it (since she is just trying to get attention), and that doesn't work. Often, she will pee on the floor, and then go get in bed VERY happy with herself for having done it.

Digioral - posted on 07/23/2018

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We have tried every diaper variation. We tried pull ups, we tried the diaper backwards, we tried diapering all her stuffed animals... we even tried diapering ourselves. Nothing. She whips it off the second we leave. Duck tape wouldn't work because she would just pull it down like undies. She is a Houdini baby, she can also unlatch any childproof lock... We got her a canopy for over her bed, she seemed really excited about it, but it made no difference come bedtime. She still went nuts at bedtime and ripped her diaper off while screaming her brains out the second I walked out of the room. At this point in time we have taken just about everything out of her room as "punishment" for her actions, its bare... which now I think is just making things worse, as her room is just a graveyard of all of our previous fights :-/. We have an appointment with a pediatric sleep specialist on Wednesday.

Summer - posted on 07/21/2018

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Hi Alexandra! Yes, you need help! What a bad situation!

First, although it sounds like your potty training was a huge success...it actually failed and is not complete. If the child is not pooping in the toilet, then they are not yet potty trained.

I honestly think you should talk to your Pediatrician...it sounds like this is associated with the removal of her diapers...wearing diapers to a child is security, and when they come off there is a period of insecurity. Short of putting her back in diapers, I start from square one, Potty Training 101.

And also, maybe I am old-fashion in this way, but when she poops in the floor a spanking is due...a few of these and you may see an attitude change. I am not talking a full spanking at age 2....but a smack to her bottom before you put her diaper back on, that will let her know you are serious and her attitude is not acceptable.

Summer

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