20 months old and not talking.

Samantha - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




My son is 20 months old and not talking.. he does the baby talk about not actual words.. all he says is "ma", "mama" and "dada" should i be concerned that he's not talking?...


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Amanda - posted on 04/05/2011




This is what your child should be doing at 18 months and 24 months, if they are not they should be tested for speech issues (which isnt always the problem sometimes children dont speak because everyone else speaks for them but a professional will know).

By 18 Months

understands the concepts of “in and out”, “off and on”

points to several body parts when asked

uses at least 20 words consistently

responds with words or gestures to simple questions – “Where’s teddy?”, “What’s that?”

demonstrates some pretend play with toys – gives teddy a drink, pretends a bowl is a hat

makes at least four different consonant sounds – p, b, m, n, d, g, w, h

enjoys being read to and looking at simple books with you

points to pictures using one finger

By 24 Months

follows two-step directions – “Go find your teddy bear and show it to Grandma”

uses 100 to 150 words

uses at least two pronouns – “you”, “me”, “mine”

consistently combines two to four words in short phrases – “Daddy hat”, “truck go down”

enjoys being with other children

begins to offer toys to peers and imitates other children’s actions and words

people can understand his/her words 50 to 60 per cent of the time

forms words and sounds easily and effortlessly

holds books the right way up and turns pages

“reads” to stuffed animals or toys

scribbles with crayons

Lisa - posted on 04/05/2011




Hey girl im having the same problem hes two and talks but is really lazy with it. meaning he says what he wants to say and the rest of the time he says words that sound like. he want sit still long enoughfor flash cards so i dont know what to do.

Alisha - posted on 04/15/2010




my son is now 20 months and he doesnt talk.. as of now he is in a infant and toddler program and receiving help. i was told that he has fluid in his ear but its not infected. so gettin a little help wouldnt hurt

Alexandria - posted on 04/15/2010




my daughter is the same way.. she is 21 months old and talks very very little... i was thinking about getting her into speech therapy.. i do flashcards.. read books.. and she doesnt seem to be interested at all. so im kinda in the same boat :/

Samantha - posted on 04/15/2010




Thanks everyone for the help!
I'll try the reading to him more, and if he still isn't talking by the time his 2 yrs apt comes up then i'll talk to his doctor and see whats happing!

Thanks again!! :)

Anita - posted on 04/15/2010




when my son was about 21 months old and still wasn't talking I decieded to have him eveluated. Turns out that he has autism. I broke down and cried for about a day but all i could think about was getting the best treatment for my son. He is now three years old and still not saying to much but with the help of speech and ot he has come a very long way. The best thing to do would be to talk to your sons primary care doctor and see what options are available to you.

Jessica - posted on 04/15/2010




my son was the same way when he was younger....you should maybe talk to a speech therapist & see what they say or think...my son which he is 5yrs now is taking speech therapy & is helping..also the muscles in his upper body are not strong like they should be for a 5 yr. old & that is a problem to for him even though he really healthy & active..soo there can be many solutions..

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Talk to your pediatrician at your child's 2 year old appt. He may also learn new words by then. My son only said 5 words at age 2 - mama, dada, ball, bye bye, and dog. Then when he was 2 1/2 he started learning new words every day. Now he is 3 and a motor mouth.

Sabrina - posted on 04/15/2010




Have you talked to your pediatrician yet? My youngest had very bad ear infections. Had to have tubes placed at 8 months old. He was a little behind in his speech. At 5 years old now, he's made up for lost time. If there is a concern, don't feel bad for asking. If the doctor makes you feel stupid for asking. Then maybe you should switch doctor's. No question is "stupid". It's "stupid" not to ask. I am a Registered Nurse. That's the advice I give to all my patients. But try not to worry, kids are very good at catch up. Your son is young still. In the mean time read to him, even what ever you read. They love magazines. My kids really enjoyed the Eric Carle series. The very hungary caterpillar, things like that. For him just to hear you talk will help him also. I bet he listening to everything that you're saying. One day you'll find him talking in full sentences :) That's what happened with my now 5 yr old. Good Luck. I hope this helps a little :)

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