20 year old daughter

Vicki - posted on 02/16/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




What do I do when my 20 year old daughter in college will not return phone calls or texts? She is lying to me and being extremely disrespectful. I am not sure what to do. She had never acted this way and it is hurtful and disheartening. She is rooming with a girl that is a Phsycology major and I think had a role in her behavior. It is really frustrating and just uncalled for.


Ev - posted on 02/16/2016




I know what it is like not to hear very often from the children. But she is 20 and an adult and has her own life. How is she lying and being disrespectful to you? If not calling back or returning texts is all she is doing, that is not necessarily being disrepectful or lying. She has a right to her own life without a parent breathing down her neck though you may not be doing this. Please back off with the calls and texts after one last one saying you would love to meet for coffee or have her call you at her earliest convenience to talk. Leave it at that.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/16/2016




Here's a thought...let your adult daughter be on her own, and respond as she wishes, not on YOUR time schedule.

If she's not sharing her entire life, that's not "lying", that's keeping her own privacy to herself. She's not a kid any more, and she deserves to have not only her own privacy, but her own life.

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