20 year old daughter pregnant

Tracy - posted on 03/15/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




Just learned that our adopted 20 year old daughter is pregnant. She is in college. She took out a loan and enrolled before telling us she was pregnant. She had no job, no resources. This is the second time. The first ended in an abortion. We have had no input into any of these choices. She also suffers from borderline personality disorder. Don't know what to do.


Ev - posted on 03/15/2014




Actually not a whole lot you can do. It is her life to live now she is over 18. My sister is going through similar situation. Her daughter moved out and in with a guy she barely knew and just yesterday gave birth to their son. My sis bent over backwards trying to be a help to the situation with making sure the baby and her daughter had health care and other things. But they always butt heads badly and do not get along so well. I think that my sis thought at first that her daughter would be coming home with her with baby but that is not happening. Her daughter has decided to go home with the father of her child. My sis is acting okay with it and said she needed to let them try to do this on their own. But trying to let someone do it on their own at this age does not happen. You have to allow them to live their lives no matter what choices they make or how those choices turn out good or bad. Be supportive of her. That is about all you can do.

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