22 and pregnant how do I tell my patents.

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I'm 22 years old 23 in January and I'm about a month pregnant. My husband is very supportive in fact he cried when the doctor told us the news. We haven't told anyone yet since it's early. Ever since I was a little girl my dad has been my rock. I tell him everything. He's helped me thru some tough times. I want to tell him but I'm scared to death of his reaction, I need his support. My mom on the other hand we haven't always seen eye-to-eye I'm afraid when I tell her shell kick me out and never speak to me again. How do I tell them!? Is it bad to tell
My dad first and ask him to keep it a secret for a while? Should I hold off
Any advice would be great!! Thanks


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/30/2013




Try this:

"When you become grandparents, what would you like to be called?"
"Congratulations, your grandchild is on the way"
"We're pregnant!"

I was 20 when I got married, 24 when I had my eldest, and so what if your parents don't like it? You're an adult, honey, and you need to take ownership of that.

My parents didn't like my husband (of 23 years now), but I really didn't care. They weren't happy that I was pregnant, but again, I just told my mother that if she couldn't be supportive, fine, I was ok with that, but she also wasn't allowed to be negative.

However, if you are living with your parents, you need to take the necessary steps to get your plumbing issues at your own home taken care of so that you can move back there.

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For now we live with my mom. We have or own place but since the pipes In the basement burst we can't live their right now due to mould. Right now it's just me and my husband who know and it would be nice to have some support. I've been debating when a good time to tell my dad is. They didn't really approve of me getting married so young I just feel like I'm dropping another big bomb shell on them.

Amy - posted on 10/30/2013




You're 22 and married...you are an adult just tell them. Is there a reason you are living with them, is your husband living there too? You can tell your dad and ask him not to share it with anyone since you want to wait till you are past the 3 month mark but once you tell someone something you can't control if they share that info with anyone or not.

If you feel like your parents are going to ask you to leave once you tell them then I would have other arrangements set up so that when you do tell them you can tell them you have a plan, when you have a plan it makes everything better.

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