24 mo wakes up & screams if she doesn't get to go back on the couch

Christina - posted on 04/05/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




We've been letting our daughter fall asleep on the couch while she has a show on at night, and it's become very hard to get her out of this habit. She wakes up at about 2am every night for the past several weeks, and if we don't let her go back to the couch to sleep she throws a major tantrum. She also wants me on the couch with her, and it's very hard to get her to stop screaming. We don't want to give into this but we also live in an apartment and are very nervous about our neighbors complaining if she continues screaming at that time in the night. I don't want to spend my nights sleeping on the couch but I don't know where to start breaking this habit. I know we have to start letting her fall sleep without watching a show but I don't know how to get her to stay in her room without throwing a huge fit.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/05/2016




STOP GIVING IN. Your child throws screaming fits because you do not stand your ground, apply appropriate discipline, and you KEEP GIVING IN.

She's winning at this point.

You need to stand strong. Yes, she's going to scream and pitch a fit. YOU have to stand your ground. No, it's not going to be EASY, nor is it going to be quick. You've gotten her into this pattern, and you've allowed it to continue. Yes, you will have to go through however many screaming fits it takes to get her retrained.

Jodi - posted on 04/05/2016




I'd keep throwing a tantrum if it meant I got my own way too. Have you ever read any developmental psychology? I suggest you have a read about Pavlov's dogs. You've trained her to throw a tantrum if she doesn't get to sleep on the couch. Now you have to undo that. It's not going to be easy. Undoing a bad habit is MUCH harder than instilling a good one. You are going to have some sleepless nights. Let her throw a fit. Eventually she will get the message if you don't give in. But so far, every time she throws a fit, she gets her way. Why not throw a fit?

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Christina - posted on 04/06/2016




Thank you, yes last night we stood our ground and let her cry. It lasted for about 30-45 minutes and I kept telling her she had to stay in her room. I stayed in the room with her until she fell asleep, then I went to our room. She only woke up once and this time she did not ask to sleep on the couch, but for me to take her to her room.

I understand that the screaming fits before bedtime are most likely going to continue until the bad habit is broken, and I am going to stop worrying about if it bothers the neighbors and focus on getting her out of this habit!

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