3 year old dangerous play

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hello, today they told me at day carte that my 3 year old took a toy clothes hanger and put it in the neck of another kid, pressuring his throat. Someone saw him & took away the hanger.
I am very confused and worried because lately he had been pushing other kids around, or he hits me and laughs cuz he things is funny.
I don't know how to address this issue, any ideas? he doesn't speaks yet, he has severe language delay & one doctor thinks he could have mild mental retardation. I wonder if this behavior child from this problems. thanks!


Jady - posted on 06/10/2015




Ask where he sees this behaviour
2. Ask him what or whom has upset him (suggestions) I know you said he can't talk but perhaps he can let you no in his own way. Body language simply noding yes and no.
3. Teach at a young age violence is a NO NO. a big squezzy cuddle can help it's not the answer but rather reassurance.... Naughty step if hits spits etc.
Keep calm but stern tone. Yes eliminate sweets or fave film in association with bad behaviour.

if the doctor said ...... then you need to push for more investigation. If theres a globaldevelopment delay usually at age 5 there is a diagnosis. By delay I mean any word used to catogrize weather it be dysphraxia -autism-adhd and so on. A problem has been identified so trust in your doctor and your self have a plan of action on how best to help your little one.,you. Good luck

Michelle - posted on 06/09/2015




If you can do this I would keep him home and out of the daycare for a while. I bet you he is learning "bullying" from seeing it happen somewhere. Daycares are super busy and they dont always catch everything. So I'd get him into a small school or one-on-one caretaker situation so he's in a place of loving care. It's difficult to move daycares but I would seriously consider your sons well-being and make an effort to find a person who will love him. It's important that he's not around people who will "tag" or "call" him a bully or think of him that way. Steriotypes are painfull for kids and he's only 3 years old. He needs to be around people who tell him he's a good boy, and he will be a good boy!


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