4 children stay at home mum and don't think I can do it any longer help

Danielle - posted on 01/30/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have 4 children ages 1 2 6 and 9 my two youngest still wake up 3 + times a night so I'm nearly always tired my husband works from 7-4 every day and I'm a stay at home mum which most of the time I love. But I am so run off my feet all day and night always day in day out that I am at breaking point I have no family that can help and my husband does nothing but work he recons that's enough and I should do everything else. He's so lazy that he can't put his dishes on the bench hell get the older kids to run around after him like little slaves. Car maintenance, house maintenance, all that stuff I do he mows the lawns maby once every 4 weeks. He gets home sits there watching Netflix growling the kids coz he's tired then eats goes to bed stays up watching Netflix till 3 am on his phone and then does it all over again I've tried speaking to hime so many different ways it always ends up in a row then my crying him saying hell do more then........nothing. please help!


Tina - posted on 01/30/2016




When he gets home have your jacket on and say "Welcome home! I'm out for a bit. Dinner's in the oven!" Then head out to a friends or to the bookstore or wherever. You need a break too. Can you hire a babysitter for several hours a day? Use the YMCA daycare? Is preschool an option? Your oldest are in school, right? Take every minute you can to put your feet up or nap. You are in the trenches, girlfriend! 1 and 2?! That's a busy momma! Don't waste your energy on being angry with your spouse. Join a book club or whatever and just go. He'll figure it out and the kids will be fine. Then maybe he can see how hard it is. And let some things go. Like housekeeping, yard work. If you are doing everything then he doesn't have to, you know? And if it doesn't get done, oh well. The world won't end. Good luck!!!

P.S. I remember leaving in my car and then parking and taking a nap in the backseat! No kidding!

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