4 year old being so bad!

Kayla - posted on 09/05/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Calling all moms of children 3 and up...

I need advice. My son is being so bad everywhere. He won't listen. He's being mean to the kitten. Hitting girls/people at school. Crying all the time over nothing! He doesn't want to go to sleep and when I put him to sleep he gets up and plays. Oh he also gets super frustrated all the time!! About little things. And says he can't do it! I tried spanking, time out, giving more attention taking things away that he likes.. But it's not working..I am a full time working mom, have a 11 month old as well and I am going through a divorce from a really abusive marriage and my son says he misses daddy. Is this the reason or could it be something else?


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/05/2014




I'll just say: Ditto Evelyn's post ;-)

And good luck

Ev - posted on 09/05/2014




Have you ever thought that this behavior might be his way of telling you how he feels about the situation of the bad marriage, separation from the father, and all the other changes that have gone on. He does not understand why you and your husband are not together anymore just that you are not together. He does not have the vocabulary to explain how he feels and maybe uses these things to do so. I know this because my own son was five when I got divorced from his father. He used to say he wished his dad was in jail or other things like that because he was mad at his dad and had no other way to vent his frustrations. Kids in this age group do not understand what we adults do or why. They just know we do them. They also have no choice in this and have to go with what the parents tell them or have them do. You might seek out counseling for the both of you to get this worked out.

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