4 year old boy NOT potty trained?? Is kindergarden not possible then???

Krista - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




My son is 3 years old, he will be 4 in July. He is able to start JK in September 2010 since he will be 4. Heres my problem; he likes peeing in his pants more so than in the potty.

Ryan is basically potty trained in my mind. I started potty training at 2.5. Whenever he is butt naked, no clothes on, he doesnt even tell me he needs to go. He runs to the washroom, does 1 and 2 and cleans himself up. I praise him for doing so. BUT the second you even put underwear on his, he gets LAZY and doesnt use the toilet.

Will he be able to go to kindergarten if he is not potty trained? How do I get him to stop being so gosh darn lazy?



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Gwen - posted on 03/30/2010




Have you ever made him clean up his own messes when he does this? If he has to clean his pee or poop out of the pants or off the floor, he might not think it's so great. Or tell him if he can't go on the potty then he has to stay in nursery w/ the babies because only "big boys" get to go to school. Sorry! I don't really have much advice for you. :-/

Elizabeth - posted on 03/30/2010




Most schools (and I say most, because sometimes they have exceptions), require "school age students" to be potty trained.

I'm not sure what to do in your situation, because of the 2 kids I have potty trained (one boy, one girl), they've both just started using the potty, whether they were wearing clothes or not. What I did find helpful, was putting one of the little training potties, on towels in each room, and asking every 20 minutes "do you need to go potty?" and putting the child on the potty, whether the answer was a "yes" or a "no". After they finished I would give them a sticker, popsicle, m&m, or some little treat for using the potty.

Boy was 2 and a half when we started, he was around 3 when he was fully trained.
Girl was about a year and a half old when we started, and was trained by her 2nd birthday.

Krista - posted on 03/30/2010




Okay--- maybe I should make this a bit more clear. If he has ANYTHING on, pants (with no undies), pj bottoms, swimming trunks etc- HE WILL PEE. IF he is butt naked he knows when to go. If ANYTHING covers his butt he gets lazy and pees. I have tried allowing him to go commando. He just gets lazy.

Also, Im not sure where you are from, but those vinyl undies were discontinued in all the stores near me. My mother, aunt and myself have been to every children store, walmart, zellers etc and they do not have them. Thought that would work too, but not if I cant buy them LOL.

Iridescent - posted on 03/29/2010




Lol! Annie isn't saying to bring him around town and send him to school naked. Just pants without underwear, have a shirt and socks on. Commando. Adults frequently do this. He seems to associate underwear as being a diaper.

Have you tried the vinyl underwear that go over his underwear? He'd feel SOAKED.

Krista - posted on 03/29/2010




Okay-- Annie-- I more meant when ANYTHING goes on him he pees in his pants. I cant really take him out in public butt naked

Annie - posted on 03/29/2010




It's interesting to me that you say the problem starts when you put underwear on him. Why don't you just leave off the underwear? Who says he's got to wear undies? It's also easier for a boy to go commando - his trousers will keep him decent, even when he's hanging upside down on the climbing frame! It might just be he doesn't like the feel of the underwear so tightly against his skin and is trying to tell you something. Good luck!

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In my school district unless they are in the special needs classes or PreK then they have to be potty trained when entering K. Only because the teacher does not have time to Potty Train during instructional time or to deal with that stuff. Remember there is 21-25 students per class. The special needs classes or PreK are an exception because they have the time and the extra help to do the potty training routine during the day.

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