5 year old girl with pee pee problems.

Eden - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have a 5 year old girl that wets her pants almost daily. It's more of a heavy leak that a full on wetting of the pants. Sometimes she has to change her clothes 4 times a day. She also goes through periods with no wetting at all. She's been to a specialist and they found nothing wrong.They did every test they could without being invasive (inserting a catheter). I've tried everything. I hate when I lose my temper and yell because I don't know if she's just being lazy or she can't help it.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm at the end of my rope. This situation has to be resolved before 1st grade!


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Michelle - posted on 02/14/2010




Hi Eden,...... When my son was between the ages of 3 and 5 we went through the same symptoms. We did decide to have tests done that required the use of a cath. This proved to be very helpful, as we found out that he was having bladder spasms and had some thickening of the bladder wall. We did not want to put him on medication due to allergies, but we did have to enforce a strict routine that required him to use the bathroom every (1) hour, while awake, even when he did not have to go. (A sticker/poster set-up, allowed him to mark when he went to the bathroom, and showed how long he was dry each day. We set goals for a reward system that he could redeem at the end of each week.) When that seemed to work for a week, then we were able to increase time amounts. Some of his issue was caused by him not wanting to stop what he was doing and use the bathroom. He always felt that he was going to miss something, which added to the spasms and thickening of the bladder wall. I am happy to say that the issue was resolved before his 6th birthday.

Sharon - posted on 02/14/2010




No, this is not normal. It is not common.

I agree with Kate.

I sympathise with you. I would be angry too if she were simply being lazy and holding her urine and it was leaking out.

On the other hand, if she has a weak urethra (thanks for the spelling kate!) its unfair to be angry at her.

So please try Kate's suggestion. In the mean time hang in there and keep her in pullups.

Abbie - posted on 02/14/2010




First off, you can't put a time line on when she can control her bladder. Look aroun COM this is one of the biggest things moms talk about. It happens, more then likely its not just to upset you. You yelling at her is not helping the situation. I agree do the invasive procedures to have her checked.

Charon - posted on 02/14/2010




I have a friend who is going thru something similar, though her child is a couple years younger....Is she having regular bowel movements? If she is dealing with constipation, that could be pressing on her bladder, to the point where she loses control. Just a thought. But I do think you need further investigation. I am sure that she is just a frustrated as you are.

Kate CP - posted on 02/14/2010




She could have a weak urethra. I think it may be a good idea to ask the specialist about mild sedation and more invasive testing. I suggest the sedation so it's not quite so traumatizing or stressful for her. Obviously something is wrong and if it's not physical it's mental. So rule out the physical and then see if it's mental.

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