9 year old baby girl asked me about the bird and the bees..

Narisha Sarah - posted on 11/22/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Nothing will prepare you for the moment your child asks you "What is sex mummy?" My little Angel, oh lord. I told her that there are two definitions of sex. One is an action and went on to explain that the other is to about gender, Male or Female I told her i will explain more about the action when the time is right. Which is.. NEVER!! but i need to do it. HOW?!!! Dodged that bullet but cant for long. She understands biological father to a 'certain 'extent, I explained to her and have spoken to her about her dad. That's the man who is your dad, his name, why i left him, explained that its not that he didn't love her, but he was selfish n loved himself more. I didn't know how else to explain it and it was time to. I left her dad when she was 1year 2months and well after fighting with him for 5 months to come and see her, even just spend some time with her. I lost it and told him to take a hike, don't ever come near us again. He always had a choice, from the beginning, never forced him. all i said was, "I'm having my child, either your with me now, or you leave. No problem but please done come back in 9 months and say heey!! my baby". I was straight up and very easy about it. Didn't even ask for money if he walked. but noooooo.. he loved me and said he would change. well.. you can guess the rest. any ways.. going off topic, sorry.. She knows that to have a child, you need a man and a women. She just never knew how because i am an expert at dodging that. lol.. While growing up i showed her that families come in all different forms, some have a mummy and daddy, some just the daddy, some just the mummy and some have grandparents who take the responsibility as parents, some aunts. You get the picture. so she was ok. but she is 9 now and i cant shelter her from this any more. lost.. i am lost.. actually freaking out..


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/22/2013




Someone else who remembers "Whats Happening to Me"! Mom gave me that when I was around 9 or 10. Then all 3 of my brothers got the same copy...then she saved it, and when my eldest was born, sent it to me for my boys.

I know others have been written since, but that one was...well...Just right. Mine had both the male and the female versions in it.

Jodi - posted on 11/22/2013




I used the boys version of the book "What is Happening to Me" for my son and it was great. It helped me explain things to him in a way that was comfortable for everyone and is written in a way that is helpful to pre-teens. First we talked about it, and then he was able to read the book himself and ask questions. He is now 16 and we have lots of really open conversations about all aspects of relationships. I plan on using the girls version of the book with my 8 year old (very soon). Here is a link to the girls version of the book:

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