a new baby in the mix...

Jamie - posted on 11/14/2008 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 yr old who is not dealing well with his new baby sister. He loves her (hugs and kisses) and wants to touch her all of the time, but EVERYTHING is a fight with him. I know part of it might be the terrible twos, but it has gotten worse since the baby came. He is throwing things, hitting people and hitting himself....we need help!

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Nancy - posted on 11/16/2008

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Get him involved with doing stuff for the baby, get u nappies, bring the baby's bib.... to let him feel grown. Also give him some time, only him and u, go shopping , run chores together, read a boo... and good luck

Zoe - posted on 11/16/2008

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i agree with lianne when i had my son my girl was just over 3 and i didnt want any jealousy so i got her a teddy from her brother and i breast fed so i would cuddle her when i was feeding him she would stroke his head or hold his hand,she helped at bath time and washed his hair.she had loads of cuddles with him as well. but when he was asleep it was our time and i made a BIG thing out of it like making cakes with her or just doing some colouring with her. it all helps them as they happy 2 help. mine are 9 and 5 now yeah they fight sometimes now but thats normal but they get on and look out 4 each other alot

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My daughter had issues with my son when he was born. A lot of the problem was jealousy. The baby was invading her territory. Everything was all about her until he came along. She would love on him one minute then hit him the next. We started having a Mommy or Daddy date with her every week. One of us would take her out somewhere and spend time with only her. Also we took turns at home spending time with just her. It seemed to calm down the hitting and jealousy.

Rae - posted on 11/15/2008

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make sure he gets your undivided attention at some point each day. Read a book together, play a game, or go somewhere just the 2 of you

Lianne - posted on 11/14/2008

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I found that involving my eldest in the little things made all the difference, another nice thing is to buy your eldest a present off he's little sister, make him feel special. He could do things like chose her babygrow, fetch a nappie, show her a new toy.
When he hits himself and others, turn ur back on him, show him he can't get attention that way, tell him what you are doing and why, or the new favourite, the naughty step, spot or chair for two minutes. hope this helps.

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