A spiteful and smart-alleck 10 year old stepdaughter?

Amanda - posted on 02/26/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




My step-daughter is horrible. And she hates me. (let me clarify: she isn't my step yet as her dad is only my fiance, but we live together). Anyway, my fiance and I fight ALL THE TIME. I don't think we will make it. Anyway, my future step's mom left her when she was about 7...just told my fiance that she didn't want Zoie. So her dad raised her. Her mom has VERY recently started back in her life, and Zoie is estatic. But both my fiance and me have a feeling that her mom is up to something. Anyway, Zoie and I fight constantly. I know that I'm the 37 year old...walk away...etc. But it is so hard!!! And each time Zoie and I fight, although she starts her mouth on me, my fiance screams at me and says I'm picking on her...but I'm not. He lets her call me "crazy" and other derogatory words as well and never truly scolds her. She is my nightmare. I dread her getting home from school...I am lost and confused. These are tough times in my life. Please...any advice??? Thank you.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/27/2015




I agree with the others.

1) You are too negative for this to work. You haven't married, you fight constantly, and you, in your 5th sentence said "its not going to work".

2) If you cannot be the stable, loving adult that this child needs, turn away now.

This may not be the relationship for you.

Gena - posted on 02/27/2015




I agree with Jodi. And to be honost if i were you i would leave. Not because of the step daughter but because you have already said it wont work out. If you already know it wont work out why are you still in this relationship?

Jodi - posted on 02/26/2015




So, wait. You have moved IN with your fiance, but you fight all the time and don't think you will make it.....and you wonder why you are having issues with your fiance's daughter? Can you please read back over your post, from an outside perspective, and tell me what is wrong with this picture?

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