Absent baby daddy

Linda - posted on 05/02/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )




I met the father of my child in 2013 we went on to have a 'relationship' for about a year. I've put inverted commars because he wouldn't commit to me. After finding a bag full of panties with discharge. That was that and I was gone. ( Also the maid had notified me that he was sleeping with duo frenzy woman when I wasn't there). Found out that I was 4 weeks pregnant 3 weeks after I broke it off. He hasn't contacted me since March 2014 and it is now May 2015. I've tried sending messages, emails, he won't answer my calls or my moms, sent him pictures and videos of baby via friends and nothing. So I decided to take him to caught for maintence of out child. Now I need some advise. Do I drop the case and move on with my life as God will provide or do I keep on fighting till I get that support? Please understand that I am no longer inlove with this man. I've moved on with my life and just throughout if he won't emotionally look after her he might as well physically. Am I seeking revenge or as a Christian woman that loves god should let it go and God will provide like he has?


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Michelle - posted on 05/02/2015




Like Jodi said, it isn't revenge. The child support is in place to help raise the baby into adulthood. It's very expensive and you will need a good job to be able to afford to raise a child on your own.
It would also be an idea to get court orders regarding visitation (or lack of) set up. Maybe something along the lines that if he ever wants to be a part of his child's life then the visits will start slowly. Talk to your lawyer about the best option.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2015




It isn't revenge. It is the responsibility of both parents to provide financially for the child. That is why we have child support systems world-wide. Babies are expensive - and they get more expensive as they get older! Your child has the right to be support by the father.

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