Accidentally Pregnant at 44...healthy pregnancy so far. Anyone else in the same boat?

Suzy Lewis - posted on 07/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




So...I am accidentally pregnant at 44 (beach vacation with my husband). We were REALLY surprised, since we had tried some years back, couldn't get pregnant, and adopted our amazing son, who is now 2 and a half. I'm 10 weeks in and two ultrasounds look good. But I am a bit scared about the genetic risks. Does anyone else have (or know) moms who have had healthy babies at 44? If you do, please share the good stories.

P.S. I wouldn't change a thing about our previous infertility issues. If we had gotten pregnant years ago, we would never have adopted our amazing son, and I can't imagine our lives without him. But it is quite weird to suddenly be fertile NOW. The universe has a sense of humor.


Brittney - posted on 07/19/2012




My mom was 43 (44 when she had me). They did not get any tests done to see if I would have any genetic problems or anything wrong. I turned out to be a healthy 5 pound baby (5 pounds because my mom smoked until she was 3 months along) I was born on the due date.

A friend of our family was 42 (43 when she had her 4th baby) and she was a healthy 7 pound baby. I don't know if they got any tests done, but she doesn't have any genetic problems.

I thought this info would be helpful:

There is good evidence that older women are more likely to have or develop certain medical conditions during pregnancy, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, and placenta praevia. These conditions may have serious consequences for your pregnancy and require closer monitoring.

But even with the risk of such problems, which increases the older you are, these and other studies of pregnancy in women over 35 find that the outcome for the mother and baby is still good in the majority of cases; the risks of stillbirth are higher for older women but the absolute rates are still very, very low.

This is because the complications common to older women are ones which modern maternity units can take in their stride. By working with your maternity care team and taking steps, such as controlling your diet if you are diabetic or overweight, you can help reduce the risks for yourself and your baby.

Another problem is that the odds of having a baby with a genetic defect increase as you get older. Figures from the Office of National Statistics for 2005, show that the risk of having a baby with a genetic abnormality such as Down's syndrome rises from 2 per 1,000 births at ages 35-39 years, to 4 per 1,000 at age 40-44 years up to 14 per 1,000 at age 45 years or over. If you're almost, or over 40, you should strongly consider genetic testing because the risk of genetic problems increases significantly.

Because chromosomal abnormalities are the most common reason for miscarriage, the risk of miscarriage also increases with age. It has also been suggested that higher rates of stillbirth for women over 35 could also be attributable in some part to chromosomal abnormalities.


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Suzy Lewis - posted on 07/19/2012




Thanks, Brittney, for sharing your mom's story! We are getting all the genetic tests. It's better to be sure, or at least as sure as we can.

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