Acclimating to new home.

Lucitta - posted on 04/19/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hello, Ladies.
This past weekend the daughter of a great, now decist, friend moved in with myself and my children.
Due to recent traumatic experiences, I know some abnormal behavior is to be expected, but I'm wondering if the following should worry me.
Before anyone suggests it, we are going to a counselor, we just won't be able to see her for the first time until Thursday.
1) Not speaking. She refuses to talk to any of my children, and uses as few words as possible with me, in as quiet of a voice as possible.
2) Clinging to an item. She hasn't let her baseball cap out of her sight, and if she wakes up and it's not next to her, even if just on the night stand, she will panic.
3) Wetting the bed. She has only been here 2 nights, but she has wet the bed both of them. She was crying the first time when I came to wake her up and noticed, and whimpering the second.
4) Anger. She is extremely quick to anger, and while she tries to be nice, she has hit Arthur, 7, three times already. Once when he took her hat to look at it, once when he tripped and knocked over her blocks, and again when he was coming to get her for dinner. I tried talking to her about hitting, and she got as far as saying she knew it's not right, before she completely shut down. Thankfully Arthur is very quick to forgive, telling me, in his own words "She's not very happy, and needs a hug. She won't let me hug her now, but when she's ready, I will be there to hug her." (I teered up at this.)
If anyone could please give me some advice to hold me over until Thursday, I would really appreciate it.
Her school wants her back Monday morning, but ofcourse I said no.

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Gena - posted on 04/20/2015

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I don't have advice but I just wanted to let you know that your son is great! That what he said is so kind!!! I wish you all the best and that everything goes well.

Lucitta - posted on 04/20/2015

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Sarah.
Please add me as a friend, as I don't know how to do this to you.
I would like to continue our conversation, anpossibly discss other things.

Thank you.

Lucitta - posted on 04/19/2015

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I had 3 already. Lu, whom is 15, a complete introvert, ad she is very understanding of the situation and the most helpful. Marzio, whom is 13, and a bit of a rebel lately, and definitely the one least willing to open our doors. Arthur, 7, whom I mentioned above.

Lucitta - posted on 04/19/2015

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Our agreeing on school is making me think it's the right idea.
Her mother hasn't been in the picture since shorty after her birth, her father raisd her by himself. He never dated another woman, focusing all his free time on her.
He passed due to an accident.
This is when I wish I wasn't single, so I could have someone help me with tm really great community here.

Lucitta - posted on 04/19/2015

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Hello, Sarah.
Thank you for your quick reply.
This is permanent, as I was her godmother. She is 11, nearly 12.
I am just afraid that if I send her to school in such a fragile state, she might shut down or lash out. Due to me living about 90 minutes from her father, she is actually going to a new school, and I think that would be overwhelming.
Again, thank you for your quick response, and I am glad to hear that none of these signs seem alarming.

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