Adjusting to daycare

Katie - posted on 09/13/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




My daughter is almost 5 months old. We have to use day care only 3 hours a day for a few days a week. (We work opposite schedules). My daughter has been going to the same day care for a little over a month and not adjusting well. Crying, not being social or comfortable with the other kids, being fussy, and I am not sure if there is anything I can do to help... or if we need to start looking for another day care.. any suggestions?


Shannon - posted on 09/13/2009




I am the mother of four and work in a day care center. The best advise I can give is observe your child in her care center. See what is happening. spereration anxiety is completely normal. At this age children will not socialize on a true basis with one another. That really won't happen until around two and even then they play along side each other and not really with each other. Since she is there only for a limited amount of timeit may take her awhile to adjust, but the daycare workers should be helping and not ignoring. I have taught all ages, infants, toddlers, two, three, preschool 4s and school age. they all have different ways to deal with things based on age, but the care giver should help with adjustment. plese feel free to email me. Shannon

Megan - posted on 09/13/2009




My son started daycare at 5 months old, he goes part time 3 days a week. It took him about a month and half to get used to it. At first he would cry all the time and just want to be held. There is not much you can do but to let them adjust on their own. I think it is harder when they stay home with you for so long and they dont start daycare until they are a little older versus starting right at 6 weeks or 2 months old. It is also probably harder in your situation since she is only there for 3 hours a day for a few days a week, where she doesn't have that much time a day there to really adjust. My advice is just hang in there, I know its hard knowing that your baby isn't happy all the time, but give it time and it will all work out.


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User - posted on 11/02/2011




I'm having the same baby boy is 3 mos old and he's been going to daycare only 3 days now and his feeding schedule that he was on is totally messed up! They give me reports on paper everyday and seems like the same time of day he either throws up his formula and doesn't take a full bottle..he also naps better in the am also. I wonder if it's just the person who cares for him in the am and when she leaves all goes down hill? He doesn't eat well when he gets home either. He feels lighter too! I'm worried..I know it's adjustment for him/me and it's only been 3 I alone?

Irena - posted on 09/13/2009




Dear Katie,

Some children/babies adjust to the new environment quickly some take more time.Even older kids/toddlers sometimes take longer than 4 wks to adjust,it took nearly 8 wks 4 my daughter when she was 2 yrs old.I wouldn't be so concerned about it to go looking for another day care,that could even make it worse.The few things you can do are to talk to the carers/teachers at your daughter's centre,ask them the questions about the children's daily routines and what they are doing to accommodate your baby girl to feel more relaxed and loved.I don't know if u already done this but a lot of times it helps if you stay couple hrs with your baby in the centre at the beginning and help her bond with one of the carers so the transition form home to day care environment is smoother for her. As well, when you leave her at the centre try to be as relaxed and positive about it ,it helps, because she can sense when you are feeling anxious and she will feel it too.This advice comes from my own experience and I am studying Children's services course (to become a day care teacher) and you would be surprised that 1 whole unit is dedicated to this topic(how to deal and help babies/children and parents through the transition time,adjusting to the day care environment).

I hope this helps you,and take care


Carolyn - posted on 09/13/2009




Are you or partner able to spend some time with her there. It may help for you to be able to see thier routines and how they handle her in general. It might also help her to adjust just by having a familiar face there sometimes while she is getting used to the concept of being away from you. If you still don't think she is settled then maybe it would be worth trying another centre

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