Adult teen roommate paying half and wants more residential freedom.

Joshua - posted on 06/07/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




First off, I'm a single dad who has raised my daughter on my own for the last 7 years.

My 19 year old daughter and I are very close and we share a house together. She pays her share of the bills and during my work week of 7 days of 12 hour over nights she wants to have her boyfriend over whenever she wants and how long she wants while not having him intrude on my week off. Regrettably I have social anxiety disorder and have major trust issues with others. I have made what I feel are simple requests of not having sex in our home or having anyone sleep over of the opposite sex. For me it's a privacy issue. These rules also apply to me.

My daughter refuses to except my request and saying that she is 19 and a adult "who would have ever thought that would happen, lol" thus causing issues between us. I understand she wants her freedom and has every right to it but should she also not respect my request or am I being controlling? I have said if she wants sleepovers/sex with her boyfriend simply go to his house.

Looking for some guidance.


Michelle - posted on 06/07/2015




In a way she is right, she is an adult and can make her own decisions but on the other hand she is living in your house.
You don't have a teen room mate, you have an adult daughter. If she is paying an equal share of expenses then maybe you have to let go a bit. It's her house as well.
If you have issues then maybe you need to look at getting a place of your own and she can live with her boyfriend.

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