Advice for kids not wanting to move...

Lisa - posted on 01/13/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have 2 kids age 14 & 16. I have met a new man & gotten engaged over the past 6 months. We want to get married soon & he owns his home (no mortgage) and wants us to move in with him. His home is 35 minutes away from where me & my kids currently live & they are opposed to moving & want to go live with their father that lives in the same town if I decide to move. It is very difficult financially to pay rent & utilities & everything else mainly on my own with only receiving a small amount of child support. Right now they live with me & I have primary custody. They stay at their dads 3 nights per week. Am I wrong for considering letting them go live with their father? Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/13/2014




Did you even think to ask them what their opinions would be about the move before you decided that this is what you were doing? You have the right to be happy, yes, but you don't have the right to force your kids away from what they've known, just so that you can get married.

If your kids want to live with their dad, and you live in the US, your kids are at an age where (in MOST states in the US) they'd be allowed to choose their custodial parent anyway. There's nothing wrong with kids living with their father.

Ev - posted on 01/13/2014




Why make them up and move that far and have to change schools? They are of an age if this went to court, and I hope not, that they would be able to tell the judge to let them go to their dad. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

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