Advice on becoming single parent?

Sabrina - posted on 06/20/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi! So I'll try to keep this very short and simple! I'm 18, turning 19 in a couple of months and I am now 2 months pregnant. Me and my so called boyfriend were on and off for 4 years. So basically all of high school and now. We had discussed what would happen if I got pregnant before but he said he'd support whatever decision I made. Which made me feel comfortable. Now fast forward to me actually being pregnant he begged and begged me for an abortion I slightly considered it but in the end I said no. He through a fit tried to make me feel guilty for keeping the baby and even threatened to kill himself twice!! After he finally learned I was keeping the baby he just disappeared blocked me off everything. I decided to leave it alone and give it some space. I used someone's phone to call him just now and try to see what's going to happen. He called me so many horrible things told me I ruined his life and how he'll never forgive me. He didn't make it clear but I don't think he's going to be in the babys life. It hurts so much to me I loved him so much and I did anything for him and I mean anything!! He even grew up without a father and said he wouldn't do that to his kids. It also hurts me for the baby. I can't imagine what it's like to be without a father. I have amazing family and friends who support me and are willing to help in any way. But this hurts so much I even asked him how could he do this to me and he went off saying how could I do this to him etc etc. any advice please?


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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/20/2016




One HUGE mistake many women in your situation make, is not putting the father on the birth certificate. Make sure you put him on it. Your child should always know who his/her father is no matter what.

He may eventually come around, but if he wants to rekindle the relationship when he finally comes around, be careful. Remember how he treated you. No one wants to feel abandoned by their partner during pregnancy, but in situations like this, it is usually for the best. You can do this. Everything Michelle said is spot on, and making sure he is on the birth certificate with help in the long run, and make things easier.

Michelle - posted on 06/20/2016




I would not contact him anymore. He may come around after he thinks about it for a while though.
You didn't do anything to him though, you both had sex so you are both responsible.
If he decides he doesn't want to be in the baby's life then make sure you go to court and get custody, visitation and child support sorted out ASAP.

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