Advice on whether or not to leave a relationship.

Megan - posted on 08/18/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hello fellow moms, i ask with a heavy heart for some advice. Im currently a SAHM of 4 kiddos(6, 3, 2, 5mth), and I have been with my S/O for almost 5 years. My oldest is from a past relationship, so i understand the whole "shared custody" arrangement all too well. About 7 months ago, we started renting the house that we are currently living in and things seemed okay.
A fact you need to know is that my S/O has a gambling problem. It didn't used to be as bad as it is now, but its getting uncontrollable. It has caused us to get a car repossessed and now our landlord is asking us to move out because apparently our rent hasn't been getting paid. My S/O had been reassuring me that he had been making payments to her, but apparently had been lying. This isn't the first time that he's lied about making payments. We've had several arguments about the fact that shes come to the house looking for him to make a payment but I'm always under the impression that payment had been made. Unfortunately, he has his own bank account so i'm not at liberty to go take out the payment myself. Long story short, He's been saying he's paying rent but he's really using it to gamble and its already been about 7 months that he's kept this from me.
I'm at a breaking point because I know its not healthy what he's doing and, in reality, he's hurting our kids and our relationship. I promised myself that i would never put my kids through a custody arrangement because of the bad experience i had with my ex over my oldest. (even though i know my s/o would never act as harsh as my ex did),
I just don't know what to do at this point. Should i try and work things out and hope that he'll change for our family, or should i leave with my kids and make the best out of the situation? Please no judgement


Michelle - posted on 08/18/2016




Personally I would be moving out.
You don't need the black mark against your name. He needs to get help but only he can make the decision to get it. Tell him that until he gets his problem under control you won't be living in the same house. Your children deserve to have a stable home and not be thrown out on the streets because of his addiction.

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