Afraid to notify biological father

Susan - posted on 11/26/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Biological father did not want anything to do with me when he found out I was pregnant. Now 4 years later I am married to a wonderful man who my daughter thinks is her real daddy. He wants to adopt her but legally I have to contact her father. I'm afraid of his response and possibility of now wanting to see her


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Ariana - posted on 11/26/2013




I probably wouldn't do anything for another couple of years. You can always wait until she's 7 or 8 before you get her legally adopted. You may also want to speak with her, in an age appropriate manner, about the situation.

It's really difficult of course, but at least she has a father figure in her life, so it isn't to bad. If she asks about babies etc. you can explain that she has her regular daddy but we're all made from a mommy and a daddy and she was helped to get 'made' (or whatever terms you wish to use) with her 'biological' dad.

My son doesn't have a dad at all, he's four and I haven't gotten into it to much with him. I told him all families are different, since he doesn't really get it yet.

I personally would wait a couple years and then try to do it.

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