am i a adult at 17 if i have a 9 month old baby

Karrina - posted on 02/17/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




my mom throws in my face daily that i dont have custody of my daughter because im underage and i want 2 kno if she is right she is mentally and phically abusing me as well and i want 2 move out but i dont know what 2 do im afraid she is gonna try 2 take my baby from me wat can i do 2 stop this and prove she is wroung


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My cousin had custody of her child at 15. Of course, she also lived w/ her mom and her mom did a lot of the child care. If I remember correctly... she moved out at 17 and took her son w/ her.

If she is physically abusing you.... document it. Call the cops on her. If there is proof of her abuse.... I highly doubt she'd ever be able to keep your baby from you.

Technically though, you aren't an adult until you are 18, but that should have zero effect on you being able to keep your own child unless someone can prove that you are unfit.

Good luck!


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Sarah - posted on 02/18/2012




Your mother does not have custody of your child regardless of how old you are. Age has nothing to do with it. If she is physically and emotionally abusing you, call the police and child protective services, they will put you into a safe place (with your child). She has no rights to your child.

Bonnie - posted on 02/18/2012




I don't think age has anything to do with it. You are not considered an adult until the age of 18 with or without a child. I have never heard anyone say, "you don't have custody of your child because you are underage" though. There must be more to it. There are girls your age and even younger who have custody of their own children all the time.

Stifler's - posted on 02/17/2012




I don't think custody has to do with age. Maybe it depends where you're from. I would check that out as I do know people who had babies who were under 18 and had custody of their child.

Krista - posted on 02/17/2012




Is there a legal aid office anywhere near you, Karrina? It'd be worth contacting them, to see if you can at least find out what your rights are, under the law.

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