Am i the only mother that absoulty hate mothers day?

Tierra - posted on 05/11/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )




I have 3 beautiful kids and im working so hard to make sure they have a bright future but when mothers day come around i'm in such a dark place. All I wanna do is stay in bed, I get so depressed. When i get mothers day text messages or fackbook post i get so mad. Am i the only one? Do i have a problem?


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Tanya - posted on 05/12/2014




I don't think you have a problem. But what is the underlying reason you hate the day?

Do you feel like this on all holidays or just mother's day?

Guest - posted on 05/12/2014




You are not the only one. I'm not a fan of holidays in general, but I wouldn't say I "hate" them. If your feelings of hatred for the day are very strong, you should look at why you feel the way you do. You don't want your children to see you unhappy on the day you celebrate being their mother, that will make them feel like you are not happy to be their mother.

I do not like holidays because I hate useless trinkets and gifts that no one wants. I don't like flowers that die in a week, and I HATE greeting cards, printed with all of their chemical dyes and killing trees then getting tossed into a landfill where they take forever to decompose. My family knows that, so we just skip the gifts and cards.

Instead, we take the grandparents (our mothers) to brunch or dinner and for a walk in the park or window shopping in town. For me, mother's day is about spending time with the mothers in our lives who made us who we are, not buying them something.

I received a gift only once. It was my first Mother's Day as an actual mother myself, but I could not spend time with my mother because both she and my 6 month old baby were in different hospitals. I had to stay with my son, so my mother in law and husband bought both my mother and me matching necklaces. It was the perfect gift, and I love the necklaces, but I much prefer the meal and easy afternoon together.

Bethmcginnis - posted on 05/12/2014




I have always hated it when people say "it could be worse" and to use the term "dear" seems condescending .Of course it could be worse!! Being a mother is the most difficult and overwhelming thing on the planet, and with 3 kids she has her hands full. We don't know her situation but I can understand her feelings. I hate Mother's Day too!!
There is nothing wrong with you. Even the founder of Mother's Day ended up hating the commercialism and if I have to see another brunch and flowers picture I may puke.

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2014




My perfect Mother's day is to get hugs from my children and tell me they love me. Yes I get gifts bought at the Mother's day stall at school but nothing compares with those arms wrapped around my neck. That happens at least once a day for me so every day is Mother's day, like it should be.

Jodi - posted on 05/12/2014




I am not understanding why Mother's Day has to be about gifts? Why can't Mothers Day be about being together as a family? I am sorry for people who feel it is about forced gifts. Try looking at it, instead, as a day to celebrate being a mother by doing something fun with your family and embracing and enjoying those moments that you can never get back. Don't look at it as a day to get flowers and gifts.

Tiffany - posted on 05/11/2014




I can't stand it. I think it revolves more around the fact that my six year old kid has the mental capabilities of a four year old and he just doesn't know what Mother's Day is. The moment he recognizes Mother's Day and gives me gifts he hasn't been forced to do, is the day I'll drop all bitterness towards this day. God bless!

Kira - posted on 05/11/2014




Life is too short to be depressed. You work, take care of your kids, have a roof over your head, feed them everyday and cloth them. Are you and your kids healthy? You seem blessed to me. You shouldn't be so dark dear. There is sunshine on the other side. Please go find. Also, you dont want your kids seeing you depressed. Trust me it isn't good for them to see you like that because it affects them. Take care and smile honey cause there is someone else out there who has it worst off then you dear.

Denikka - posted on 05/11/2014




Why are you feeling this way?
I think that's the biggest thing that you need to ask yourself. Did something bad happen on a previous Mother's Day and so it's bringing up bad memories and feelings? Is it something else? Or is it completely out of the blue?
It's not a *problem* persay, many people dislike certain holidays for a variety of reasons, but I would really look into WHY you dislike Mother's Day so much.

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