Another Baby?

Cierra - posted on 02/08/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Me and my fiance would love to have another baby right now. And our daughter loves babies, she wont take her eyes off of one if its in the room. She is so adorable. We are in the process of moving into our own home, but our families really dont want us to have another baby. My parents are very against it and his parents just dont really like the idea. I dont want to cause a big fuss over it, because I really dont want that kind of stress on me while I am pregnant. We just dont know what to do, we think we have decided that if it happens it happens, even though we would like it to I dont think it will if we just rely on my birth control, because im on the patch and it puts out like 3 times more hormones than the pill. Please HELP! : )

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Barbara - posted on 02/08/2010

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i think that if it feels right for you and your partner go for it my eldest is 2 in march and youngest is 4 and half months and i wouldnt have it any other way we moved into our home when i had two weeks left of my pregnancy and everythin just came together it not what everyone else wants your the one goin to be bringin up the baby not either side of family

Penny - posted on 02/08/2010

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When is anyone ever financially stable in this day and age! If you, your fiance and your daughter are ready for another member of the family then definitely go for it. In fact the sooner the better. There is 2.5 years difference between my 2 girls and they get on fantastically (apart from the odd argument but that's sibling rivalry for you). The longer you leave it the bigger the age gap. Wouldn't it be lovely for your daughter to have another play mate?
It's your decision, not your family's. I wish you all the very best of luck and hope that eventually both your families with be supportive.

Noreen - posted on 02/08/2010

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Why dont your parents want you to have another baby?if there is no valid reason i would say go for it and it will happen in its own good time

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Deborah - posted on 02/08/2010

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having a baby is a very personal thing and while i understand you love your families and dont need the extra stress; is it really their choice ? you dont explain why the families feel you shouldn`t have another baby?

Natalie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I agree with the others. It's your decision. If it's the right time, you both want another baby AND you have the finances and space, why not?
You're the ones raising that child, not your parents or his parents so i really don't understand how it's their business.
How would they have felt if someone close to them told them to not have anymore children although they really wanted to?

Do they have any real concerns as in why you shouldn't? I would ask them and if they don't have them go back in time and imagine how they would've felt if someone told them that. That might help.

If it was up to my Grandmother i would have no children at all. She told me to abort my 1st when i was pregnant with him. She thinks that today you don't have to have children ,there are enough birth control choices out there to avoid that and everything is so expensive, how would we be able to give them everything?
Well, we do. We're pregnant with number 3 right now, this will be our final baby, and we have a house, a SUV where we all can fit in, they all have savings accounts that will pay for their college.... and we buy them everything they want and need. I think they have a better life than i did as a child :-)

Stephanie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I would say weigh the familie's input to a certain degree. It should not weigh in your decision to have or not have a baby, but maybe there is more to be said than what has already been said. They need to think about your happiness and not theirs. Above all, it is you and your new family that makes the decisions now. I hope for the best in your diecision to welcome a new baby in your family. Your family will love the new addition no matter what.

Meagan - posted on 02/08/2010

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If you two feel that you are ready for another one then go for it. Who cares about everyone else. It's your life and your family.

Elise - posted on 02/08/2010

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It should only be you and your fiance's decision. If another baby is what you want, you should go for it. Be happy for the decision you make, and stress won't be a factor. good luck and baby dust!

Terra - posted on 02/08/2010

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Cierra,



Honestly, is it really your family and your husbands family's business? I am not trying to be rude here, but it comes to the point where input isn't welcome. That is yours and your husbands choice not other family members. I wish you good luck!

Brandy - posted on 02/08/2010

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Personally I feel that you as a mother know when you would feel more comfortable having another baby. Before I got pregnant with my second baby all my friends and some of my family was telling me that I should at least wait another year to become more financially stable and to get into a more permanent home . Finally I just had to tell myself if I want another one and my husband wants another one I am going to have another one and I dont care what others think. My kids are 2 1/2 years apart and I wouldn't have it any other way. :) Sometimes we care to much about what other people think about us and give them control of the decisions we are smart enough to make on our own. I thought I would catch a lot of crap from our families also but I really didn't the thought of a baby in general was enough for them to not say anything haha.. But I guess all I am saying is you know when you are ready. If you want more kids I think you should be able to have more.. The only way I think anyone could be against it and have a good reason for it is if you are barely scrapping by with one child and/or you dont spend enough time with the one you have.. Just do what ever your gut tells ya to do.. Good luck

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