Any Bi-Curious Moms there?

Lisa - posted on 09/05/2018 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I just joined this site but all conversations and replies are old. Is there anyone out there as of September 2018?

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Stef - posted on 10/25/2018

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Guess I'm more than "bi curious".....I'm actively in a relationship with both my male partner, and a woman....and love every minute of it LOL!

Minandi - posted on 09/07/2018

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Im a 38 year old single mom of two angels, both from diffrent fathers. As I was very young when I had my son. My story is long,complicated,amazing, hurtfull and confusing. To cut my long story short will be difficult as everything in my story has a crutial point. But here goes, as I said im a single mom, my son now 15 never knew his father due to the fact that we were young and he was in denial that the baby was his. I persued him during the years to no avail and did the best I could for my son. I was.wirh a guy for 10 years so he was kind of like a father to.my son but the last 3 years of our relationship deteriorated due to alchol and drugs, friends and such. I was 32 at the time, my son 9 so here I was in a difficult place to choise to walk away from the only man that stood up when my sons looser father ran... because of situations that could not be fix anylonger or stay for the sake of my child. Anyway after my son was born the doctors piced up growths on my overays and said if I left it untreated It will be very difficult to maby never be able to have another child. My ex and I tried during our 10 years after knowing and it was confirmed... I could not concieve. So I made peace with having just my son. As our relationship broke apart, and me being very depressed, lonely, looking frail, thin, not dressing wearingmake up as I would anyway not find someone else to accept me nor another mans son and so on I mentally, physically and emotionally gave up. Everything I worked for im going to loose... then out of the blue a friend poped past with a friend of his.... we have been friend for years and kniw all his friends but this friend was new and out of the blue.... but, this is where the situasion im in starts, it was the 23 of Dec 2011, christmas is my most favourite time yet I wasnt feeling it due to the problems at home,during the day a close friend called and said he will be visiting but wanted to know if he can bring a friend, so knowing all his friends I didnt think much of it, after work I did everything possible to detour and avoid going home too early so I wont have o face my then BF so....on this night as I was in escape mode, secluded, unsocial, my friend with his friend already cozy in my my house, visiting with my BF vsat on the coutch facing the front door nas I walked in the front door, just as every other night. I looked up and in an instant I froze asb my eyes locked immediatly with this strangers eyes, everything around us dissapeared, blurred out and it felt like an electrical surge moved through me. I heard words yet he didnt move his lips but inside me I felt like I knew what he was saying yet I didnt know... I thought I was having an innebody experience where my soul spoke to me or something. I never believed the stories of ovel at first sight, soulmate or as I know now twinflames....nI was mezmerized. I went from being shy secluded, depressed and sad to, energetic, open,fun and even went to change and look nice after that second of what ever that was... it was seconds what felt like hours. Not my friend or BF even noticed it ... I saw this strangers face after wards as a sort of confusion came over him as it did me, and so the night if the 23 turned out to be some unque nite, I even.invited him of christmas dinner, that I dont usually do if I dont know someone. Yet it felt like I knew him from somewhere but was impossible as he was so much younger than me than what I initially guessed t
My gues was 25- 27 as I later found out he was only 19 years old... my head said oh no!!! im a bad woman making eyes at a guy who could just aswell be my sons older Brother! But Once we snaped out of what ever that eye, speaking, inside turing electrical energy boost was and I know he felt something too but to today dint realize it or saw it as I did and still do my whole mood changed, I was sort of energised and in a good mood.We hit off like a house on fire...cheesy pickek up lines and all he was quite good looking, tall a little skinny but so was I, here was this very youbng stranger I have never met befor yet I trusted him like no one before, felt comfy, myself, relaxed and younger hahaha, my bf and my friend dissapeard somewhere along time and it was just me and the stanger locked in hours of good conversation... not even my BF and me has ever had such an confo in 10 years... but there we where and the nite flew by....on the 25 of Dec this stranger pulles up to my front door as he was invited just never expected as it was christmas... he must have a family too... but there he was, this time shaved, neat dressed and that same energy came right back....after that I was obessed with trying to find that feeling that same energy after he left and it was not there... I felt a sadness. Any way... as time when on he actually begged my friend for my number as he didnt want to ask me directly as it wasnt polite, so he started gaving me morning texts, advise about my current love situation and that im a beautifull woman ho can have any man I wat and im strong, smart al the nice things I never heard... So the encouraging, understanding, yet not pushy messeges at work started getting a highlight of my day. Soon I was smiling at my phone and people who knew I wasnt smiling in a while noticed a glow. I knew he was 19... I said it to my self over and over and kept saying to myself its nothing im 32 a mother and cant afford foolish thoughts. Im a bad woman to have such thoughts....but I was drawn to him in a way I have never experience even befor in my life.... What ever it was that happend between me and this guy... was just my imagination, yet I still felt that surge, the energy go through me everytime I think of it.... it is unexpainable... I was hooked like never befor... and I have loved one very depply so I thought.... but this was not something that happens offten... I just knew it was special, but what is it, what does it mean I seeked advise from all my married friends triend to explain what I saw,.heard and felt at that time... and why im so drawn like a magnet knowing its wrong, im 32 he is 19 it just never will work, it wont even get past the first few montbs everyone said... at the brink ofoosing my home once again this 19 year old does what no other older man could do and he payed my bills, bought food and took what was lost to saved. He was an angel to me... he came into.my life, unexpected 2 days before christmas, and fixed everything that had no hope of saving... and he got me to leave my BF that no one could as much as they tried... and he stood by me like no man my age and older ever did.... 2 weeks later he moved in only as a room mate to rent a room and help with bills, that didnt last as we just couldnt stay away, he talked alot about kids, do I want to have more and this in such an early stage... knowing its been 10 years after trying and not getting pregnant I told him, that I couldnt have more kids, due to what the doctors said... and after trying... I asked him why he said that he wants to have a child, I laughed at him not taking this young man serious why would he want to have a child if he can still enjoy his life... but he was dead serious... he said that he sees and feels something in me that he wants in his child and he want a baby girl... again I chuckled at him and said a babys gender does not come with a recipe.... he said he can bet me that I will have his baby and it will be a little girl... this is the honest and exact words he spoke, all that know us can confirm.... 2months I find out im expecting...
Then I find out im expecting a little girl.... and she is now today 5 years old,and has a lot of my inner good traits and alot of her dads bad traits.....everyone who judged and doomed the relationship of a 12 years age gap and the circumstances and the fact that he is known to be a player and dont sitick in serious relationships, he defeated all the odds agaist him.. he took care of me and my son whe in was pregnant,stuck by me, when all thought he was going to run and abandone me and the baby, yet he stuck, his parents who was fed up and han no more ways to try and change this rebel of a son, said to.me the day she.met me for the first time she nitice a almost instant change in her rebel son, and they knew it had to be something but he never said its a girl as he was in and out of relationships as fast as he drank beers and was still the same, never did they think it will be a girl... or woman to her shock... she even said I dont know how or what you did but thank you.... I was shocked as he never showed me any sign that he was so bad... so I felt good that I had a pisitive impact on him... he stoped drinking completelty, wrote of a his bad friends never went out, if a girl looked at him he snarrled at her.... everything he apearently wasnt as I heard. And I never asked him to change in anyway as I never knew... so he change fir me out of his own fir two years, befor we hit n hole... he lost his job we have a brand new baby Girl, and and and... all the worries piled up, then just after 2 years, he left for the first time another girl involved, after there was signs of trouble... I just didnt know what to do... I did fight for him to stay,and keep the promise he made our daughter the day she was born. And not to leave.us for a tempory escape... and make us loose the home he helped us keep in the first place, so our baby will have a home... and she did love her home... he left just befor she turened 2... lost everything... 3 months later he came back, after talking, fighting and and and... a few months later we took the step and build up a new home, new beginning, new memories... she was almost 3 the next year... everything was good... we wer proud of our home and hiw far we came against all the.odds against us, and our baby girl had her own roon this time as he tried makeing up for taking away her home the first time... but a few months later... it started slipping again... small at first, drinking, dinking, more, drinking heavy and mixing the booze with his perscription anti depressants and then hard core drugs... it got pretty bad, anger fits, screaming, metal, verbal, physical, emotional abuses, unintentionally as he wasnt aware what he was doing... he was woring night shifts as a paramedic and I woreked during the day, so we slowly started to dift apart... till one week where fir a brief few days everything went back as it always were since day one, I felt him again as I used to, I could talk to him with out him getting angry I saw what he felt in his soul without him even telling me, yet I was unaware that what was eating him from inside was much deeper than what I was capable of seeing... but yet we felt colse again like always, loving happy and in our own happy world... he could not stop telling how much he loved me, and hiw amazing I am and how amazing the last few days was, and he js so happy... two weeks later he acts funny again, and tells me that he diesnt love me anymore and its over he met someone new... I was devestated, confusedand broken, lost... but the way he acted when after he broke up with me was that of a man who is confused and unsure... even.if he said he did not love me, we always had that thing with the eyes, and as his lips uttered those hurtfull dreadfull words his eyes and inside told me something difrent... I did think I was going mad and seeing things I wanted so badly to see that the hurt of my soul and heart was not in sinc with my brain prossesing what happend as he spoke the words yet I felt I saw and I knew what his eyes told me as many times before. He was up and down the hole time, one miniute telling me its over, the next to forget the next start packing his stuff the bex sitting watching the telly and the as strong as I tried to be, I went dien on my knees in my baby girs room infrobt if her just sorted out closet and he came from behind and gave.me a hug I never felt in our 5 years togetter, it as alsways is unexplainable... another mystery... the hug gave me a semnse if comfort, support, safety reasurance that everything will be ik but yet, good bey, I do care, I do love you, im so so sorry, but I have no choice.... it was an unforgettable feeling just as our first meeting, its been two years today after he left us for the girl he cheated on me with... since the beginning we were fighting, maintennance, rules everything a parent should natuarally not fight about caring for your child... he started building a new so called happy life with her and her child and my baby girl was deprived of her right to be first in his life... as a mother everyone assumed I used my baby as a waepon to get back at him... because I hated him so much... but I didnt, I fought a battle and was a voice fir an innocent little girl, who was promised to never be abandoned, never hurt and never left and broken by her daddy... his pride and joy he said the moment she was born with tears in thise magical eyes of him...the she was, 2 homes ripped away, twise abandoned by daddy, life long emotional and mental scars and memories, and her whole meaning of existince between het mommy and daddy made of I know know is true and pure love has been shattered... she is my little miricale after trying for so many years... I gave him everything he ever asked for... even if I didnt think it possible... he was determined with me, he got me, he was deadset on getting me pregnant and having a baby girl... even.if its impossible to predict or plan... yet I gave it to him... I changed him for the better without actually asking expecting or even trying as he did it out of his own and pure love... I gave him a home filled with love, loyalty and all of the above... he didnt loose anything ir had to give up anything, we were living well even if we were financially stricken... yet we had it all... and he gave it up just like that... now that I know what that energy, feeling, connection, electricity between me and him was since our eyes met and why I could hear a voice or something though just looking in his eyes without a lip moving... I know that I am almost certainly one of a lucky few who ever get to experience a soul connection, loving some one so purely and truely that you dont love with your heart you love with your soul as they have loved the other part for years and centuaries before our bidies even met. SOUL MATES, or as others call them Twinfames... he was my dark to my light, my black to my white, my Yang to my Jing... I never believed it was true or existed... only in boojs and stories... but as I did some reading up some in depth looking into why its been two years after he boke me,our child our home apart for a tempory fix, exitement or what ever that the only way I survived and coped during the first year after our life went to hell... wat to confince my self that I hate him... I hate him so bad... I stoped facing him directly, looking at him.. I blocked every way of connection between us and it worked for long... I swiched off all emotion that at a point I could look at him and only feel, dsgust, hate and resentment... him and his new love were having problems from early and he wasnt shy to share, never admited that he missed us and everything... nope that would break his egi and pride as he has to convince everyone including his mother who helped contribute in our breakup and other that he left for the better option but oops one day we didnt expect after so long that we would look at eachother dead in the eyes after trying so long to avoid and it happed. The connection... we both felt it and this time my mother who was watching us closely in the same space noticed the change in our body language, faces, voice she said she saw that passion that we were trying so hard to forget and hide. I felt a blush come to my cheecks and shy and he had a familiar smile on his lips... thise eyes... I remember them. That nday that our eyes locked again and I felt his soul after almost two years apart, fighting, hateing, and and and there it was again... he tried to hide it, but that nite we shared a intimate conversation about why, what and who, how we felt, what we want to say but never did, shared songs that had meaning to us as we both like to communicate through music aswell.. then later as if we couldnt help of stop ourselfs we were together in the way he said he left me for as it was not as exiting... and the sexual conne tion just followed... even though he was still engaged to the girl he left everything for, and knew he was doing wrong, we didnt feel it as such in that time we were alone and connected again... he as I admited that we have a stronger and more deeper and spirutal aswel as sexual connection than what he or I ever had or with who he waswas now. Afterwards, she phoned him screamed and yelled at him.... and boom that lock we had was gone... he didnt look me in the eyes till today and its been 4 months since that day... inbetween myself, my parents friend all noticed that he acted strange, and what he said in text in one sentence is totoal oppisite in the next... like example, he droped some meds of for our daughter at my house when she was sick but in two years he wouldnt lift a finger nor go to the pharmacy I had to do it, and this day he personally delivers it in his work vehicle and on duty but sends me a text after dont contact me for other than our daughter... but said if he didnt have to get to an accident scene to treat patients he would have liked to visit with me and our daughter longer? What now...One sentance in one text...on one day that he also does something out of normal...is how I know what he is trying to confince himself and others is confusing him crazy.... every one around us noticed these confusion spells, its not just me who is seeing things that is not there just because I really want them to be there, and they all say that he has regrets and he doesnt know how to fix it, and he is confused, he already admitted he misses everything, we had something very rare and special and he misses our life.... and he wishes this could have been diffrent but he HAD to make the sacrifice! What sacrifice? But anyway, its now 4 months after our first long past break up rondevoouuzeuze as they say, I was blown off after that, he said co fusing strange things, acted confusing or did confusing acts... we went back to no contact no face to face for the last 2 months and now him and this girl have broken up for the final and second time... the fist thing he does is go stalk my bestfriends social media and, started.likeing her posts, she and him dont get along after the abuse senarios and the cheating and because she supported me an my daughter and not him, and then he goes after 2 year of no contact and does this, now he is talking to her al of a sudden... and asking me for sexual connection no strings as he is not ready for any relationship... he just wants to have fun... but want it with me....so yes we have always had an unique sexual coneccion and chemistry, we are passiknate when we are together... and I know or have a very maby good feeling that he is looking for something familiar to us. So I know that he has a weakness for me there and he will fall for me again... but he just got out of his 2 year cheater relationship whom he was also engaged to and he also broke the engagement off last year... they were due to be married in 2017 so,I have the urge to give him that familiar connection but I am also scared that because I still love him after the years and stood and loved him while he loved another, and blew me off once before after a intimate gettogether this is just a use situation... as he said, we will never be something again,and he doesnt mean it in a ugly way, and thats why he needs me in a no strings attached kinda way... but he is scared that he will give me fals hope of ever being more again... so I am in very emotional, spiritual and mental argument, my brain, heart and soul is not agreeing, and so that is why I turned to google and found this fourm in search of any help, advise, or opinions... Anyway this story of mine is alreay way past to long,and I dearly apologise, but it is a really nice, sad, amazing and heartbreaking story and a good read I hope...but if I want a correct, and honest reply to opinions from others who experienced or maby studied things with soulmates, or relationships. And this sort of thing or close.... I have to try and give most if not all the correct and detailed details of feelings, experinces aswell as situations and occurnces, otherwise an reply or advise or opinion whould be incorrect or misleading. Please bear in mind that I am not here or wrote most of my story of my 5 year experince with someone who I loved like I knew him years befor we met, who I loved since our eyes locked, whom I loved even if he treated me bad and not capable of realizing what is happening, a soul whom I connnect and always have that connection no matte hiw far we ar apart or how long, I love him just the same... the person I love so truely and deeply, forgave that he cheated and lef twise for reasons he can today only explain as he was not in control of his feelings or himself and circumstances over time pushed me away from him even if I say I was still there, he describes it as he was scared... and toik the easy wrong way out... but yet I forgave, and stil love him the same I did that day... I have made my sacrafice for true love I gave.him up to go be happy with another, even if he did it wrong, even if it broke me and my family apart, even if I know that it will kill me for as long as it has to just aslong as you are happy and find the happiness you went looking for. I stood one side for two years and let him try love another.. I only wanted him to be happy, that is what love is... he will never do such act of trie love and kindness for me, as he does not know or realize what we had and still have... thats why he runs as soon as we have to face each other. As he feels something just doesnt understand it like I do.... so im here after n few days of reading of this post and maby a few days or months or even years to wait for a in depth an acurate and honest reply, opinion or advise what is this thing between us, is it real, will I ever be able tolove another as much and ever feel like that about someone else(have tried failed misarably) what does his actions say, acirding ti how I discribe his confused texts and actions, why is he scared to give us one last try as we both are older,more mature and learned alot, or is he bound to hurt, cheat and break our hearts regardless of the rare, connection we have. And would you say that by what I discribe about what I felt swas in his eyes and heard inside me,like my soul talking... could it be that he is my soulmate or twinflame....? He was and had made changes in our relationship as to he never did in any other... including the recent one. Must I let him go once and fir all or should I give him his space let him explore and then maby try and connect with him again. Or should I try and find away to cut all connections that we were bound to eachother since day one,soul, metally, emotionly, spiritually... all coonections and find some one who wont be my true love or sole mate and wont.love them as much but can be happy and move on... or should I try and connect with him on the one active strong connection that we always have shared and is willingly open to me and also the one key physical attraction and weakness we had fir eachother and that is sexual and try and bring him back to familiarity slowly, by keeping him happy on the the.only way I know I can and always have and is the only open connection for me to show him what we have and not had is real... and rare and unique and a once in a life time experience .. hopefully he will stop being scared of what he feels and thinks he feels... if he will just open his eye connectionto me,andi know this is going to sound very crazy but my soul and his soul speak to eachother always have always will... no matter how far or long he hides and runs... I truely feel that if only give the chance it could turn out as it should have... and not end here as it shouldnt because of things that could be resolved.

Once again I am so sorry for the peeps reading this pist, book... of my situation but I had to try and fit 5 years of intense and substancial details to get the right awnsers for al my questions...

Thank you and I hope I dont sound crazy and get reported, but I have so much bunched up inside...

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Kristine - posted on 09/20/2018

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Newly found out I am 😊 have a 2 y.o. And gave up on men after he left. I’ve yet to physically be with another women but excited when it happens 😬

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