any ideas on how to keep my 8month girl to sleep longer stretches? We are currently ranging from 10minutes to 1 1/2 hours max sleep without waking. She does have her first two teeth almost breaking thru and we also co-sleep and she is very nurtured by the breast. I need a little longer stretch of sleep soon....Please help!

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User - posted on 01/20/2009

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Get the book that Kim suggested - "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child". It helped us so much! We co-slept for quite a while and had exactly the same problems. We finally decided to move her to her crib and follow the instructions from the book. Now she sleeps for at least 2 hours at naptime and 12-13 hours at night. We are all happier now! It's tough for about a week but hang in there! Good luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2009

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I found that my son sleeps better in his own crib. All children are different, but my son is such a light sleeper that he wakes any time my husband or I turned over. He sleeps 10 hours or so in his own crib now. I know it's hard to change course after you've decided to do it a certain way, but if you are keeping her awake, maybe it's not the best sleep situation for her.

Linda - posted on 01/20/2009

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Try to give her a nice warm bath, dim the lights, then into the bedroom with the lights down again, nice soothings sounds from you and a full 10 to 15 mintues full body massage with baby oil, my son never used to sleep through the night but doing this routine he did, it takes some of your time every night but worth the good nights sleep in the end. Linda

Melissa - posted on 01/19/2009

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We have three mostly good sleepers, and some of what others said worked for us as well.  White noise/fan/humidifier for every nap and bedtime.  It's something you can take when you travel as well.  We also had them in a separate room but used a monitor to ease anxieties.  We let them cry a little and didn't go in to help unless they really were crying loud or for more than a couple of minutes.  I have also had several friends who recommended the happy baby sleep book, or whatever it was called.  Probably about 15-20 friends and family members have recommended it, but I didn't need it, so far at least.  My kids also go to sleep by 8:00 or so and sleep until at least 7 or 8, depending on how light it is.  Blocking the light also helps them sleep later. 

Leah - posted on 01/19/2009

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The cereal at night is a great idea.  We used (still use) a small room fan at night instead of a white noise machine.  Works the same way, it's just white noise, and it's something that you can use as long as you, or they, need it.

Shannon - posted on 01/19/2009

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I would say the teeth are probably really bothering her-give her some baby tylenol-it seemed to work for us

Kelli - posted on 01/19/2009

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Before teething started around 4 1/2 months, my daughter slept about 7 hours at night.  From the start of teething until about 11 months, she started waking up 2 to 3 times during the night.  I  have also heard many similar stories so hopefully you're almost past this stage.....but I suggest getting her into a crib in her own room. This way, you're less likely to wake up by her little movements and sounds....she'll probably go right back to sleep without needing to be fed breastmilk, formula, or food. 

Kelly - posted on 01/19/2009

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I have a 1 yr old a 2 yr old and a 3 yr old. I breastfed all of them and around 8 months old I was running into the same problem. I found that giving them a warm bath with johnsons lavendar soap, breast feeding for about ten minutes and then switching to a bottle of formula to fill them up worked really well! I also use the white noise method each child likes to listen to a different setting but I had very good luck with doing it this way. I only had trouble with my 3 yr old we had to slowly move him out of our room. Easch night we would move his portacrib closer and closer to the door until we put it in his room. It took about two weeks. I hope this helps you. Good Luck!

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If you use a bottle and have the time and energy express milk and add cereal to the bottle, however a little formula on the side (one to two bottles a day with cereal and breast feeding) is fine. I have done both. Time was my enemy so I did the formula or acedophilis milk. But what she really wants is more solids in her diet. Baby cereal, or real food. Meats are okay in limited amounts, but carbs and fruits are better.

Kim - posted on 01/19/2009

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Hi Melissa-We went thru the same thing until my daughter was 10mos! Very exhausting! I finally read a book called Healthy Sleep, Healthy Child (I think that was the title, I borrowed it from a friend and have returned it). It focused a lot on developing good sleep habits and helping your child to learn to sooth him/herself back to sleep. One difference in our situations though is that we never 'co-slept'. We kept our daughter in our room until she was 4 months then moved her to her own room/crib. I never liked the idea of letting a baby cry so I would jump up and 'run' into her room when she cried. After reading this book we established a pretty strick bedtime routine with the goal of a 7-7:30 bedtime. Laying her in the crib awake (after nursing her) was/is important. It took 3 nights of letting her cry for 5 minutes, going in to sooth her (however not picking her up), leaving waiting 10-15 minutes before going back in etc...She is now 16mos and actually points to her crib and wants to go to bed after the night time routine and has slept thru the night (until 5:45/6am) almost without exception. As long as you know she's ok (dry, fed, give her a little Tylenol before bed for the teeth, etc...) its ok for her to cry a little bit. Just my two cents, but I'm a very doting first time mother and it worked great for us and we have a 'normal' life back of evenings to 'catch up on household things and a good night's sleep. Good Luck!!!!!



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Feed her food.

She is 8 months she can manage food off of your plate. Let her gum it at the table with you and add baby cereal to a bottle for her. She is old enough to handle solids easily as long as you are continuing to nurse too or if you keep enough fluids in her. Her bowel movements will get stinkier and a little harder, but she will sleep and not be fussy. Bananas are wonderful at the dinner table. They even have mesh bags with handles that you can buy now. It makes a big mess, but so worth it!

And, yes I have done it. I had to start one child on solids at 3 months because I was not sleeping and he was having a terrible time at night staying hungry all the time. That was number 9.

Tracy - posted on 01/19/2009

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My girls are now older but I know how it feels to have a baby waking up continually through the night. 



I also breastfed and co slept with both of them, and it was about the same age as your baby is at now that it started to cause problems.  Unfortunately, I have to recommend that you try to slowing move her out of your bed.  Try a crib in your room for awhile then start putting her into the crib in her room for daytime naps and then eventually in there for the nights too.



It's important for babies to learn to sleep on their own without the comfort of the breast as a passifier.  A baby who is a good sleeper becomes a toddler who sleeps well and so on.



I also agree with one of the other ladies who said to try pablum.  At about 6 months it's important for babies to try some solids, start with rice.  I know that breast milk is a complete food but it digest too quickly. (especially now that she is becoming more active!)  Mix breastmilk  in with her rice if you like. 



I am a nurse and remember discussing this with my Dr.  He said they need the iron. ( what we gave them in utero is depleted)  Plus I found that breast milk digests so quick that once the girls started on pablum it made a difference (esp at night) Good luck, and better sleeping.

Angela - posted on 01/18/2009

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Have you started her on cereal at all yet? If formula isnt something you are comfortable with (I also breastfeed) try rice cereal about a half hour before you go to bed then breastfeed right before you go to bed. Works for us!

Shannon - posted on 01/18/2009

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I'm going to agree with the formula.  Try giving her a bottle to fill her up then let her nurse so she doesn't miss out on the mommy time.  The formula will take longer to break down and should keep her more satisfied.  Good luck!  That has to be so hard.  Ya know...  maybe the cosleeping isn't helping.  She might be wakeing up as you guys move and wiggle in your sleep or she might smell you or feel you as she wiggles against you and wake up.  Once she is full and falls asleep she might start to sleep better in her own bed with no disturbances.

Shannon - posted on 01/18/2009

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I missed the above suggestion about the rain.  I totally agree.  We all have nature sounds playing in our rooms at night.  The rain or summer crickets / insects are our favorites.  It realy helps to get a better nights sleep.

Shannon - posted on 01/18/2009

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I'm going to agree with the formula.  Try giving her a bottle to fill her up then let her nurse so she doesn't miss out on the mommy time.  The formula will take longer to break down and should keep her more satisfied.  Good luck!  That has to be so hard.  Ya know...  maybe the cosleeping isn't helping.  She might be wakeing up as you guys move and wiggle in your sleep or she might smell you or feel you as she wiggles against you and wake up.  Once she is full and falls asleep she might start to sleep better in her own bed with no disturbances.

Monica - posted on 01/18/2009

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I have a nine month old and when I put him down in his crib I put on the rain sound machine. We use it every time he goes down for a nap and at bedtime. It seems to really help him sleep through the noise that is going on in other parts of the house.

Kristin - posted on 01/18/2009

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You're probably not going to like my answer, but....

My little girl slept a little better when she started on formula (around 8 mo). Now she sleeps better after a warm bath and some cereal before bed (11 mo). We used to co-sleep until about 8 mo, but then I went back to work and neither hubby nor I were getting any sleep. So, we put baby to bed in her room. She wouldn't sleep in her crib, so we put her on the bed in her room. (You could put a mattress on the floor if baby won't sleep in her crib.) Lately, she just wants someone when she wakes up, so we just rub her back until she falls asleep. Eventually, we had to stop going in at night. (Less than 3 minutes of light crying and she falls back asleep.)

Natasha - posted on 01/18/2009

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i know this is not recommended by the doctors but it worked for me. My daughter would only sleep for a few minutes for the most one hour until i put her to sleep on her belly and she slept for a good 3 hours. I told a friend of mine to do the same because she was having the same problem and she called me the next day tanking me because it worked so please try it and see what happens. good luck

Trena - posted on 01/18/2009

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full dinner, bath, play time, breast then bed. Can also set room temp up a bit. I have heard that the white noise machines are great.

Tanja - posted on 01/18/2009

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This happened with our first daughter, too. With #2 and 3 we didn't co-sleep, as we would both wake each other up constantly. I'm not sure if it's just a fluke or not, but my older one is still a "lousy" sleeper and the other 2 sleep through the night. Can you try to have her sleep in a different room, so that maybe your tossing isn't waking her and vice versa? If you're worred about her, put the baby monitor on for the first few nights until you are comfortable with her sleeping in a different room.



Hope that helps a bit,



Tanja



mom of 3 girls (7yo, 5.5yo and 11 weeks old)

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