Any other single moms work nights?

Christina - posted on 12/07/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




I am a single mother of a 3 year old daughter. I work nights as a correctional officer. I have been working with a great department for almost 2 years and was moved approx 6 months ago. Over the last few months I have noticed that my daughters behavior has drastically changed. Her behavior has gotten absolutely horrible!!! I keep trying to fing things to blame it on, but every single time I get to the bottom of the problem I find the same thing...She isnt coping with not being at home with me at night and staying 2 nights here, then 2 nights there kinda thing. I try to explain things to her in a way that she can understand and keep things simple. She used to cry herself to sleep at first, now she doesnt because she says "Mommy has to go to work again" so she understands to an extent.
She stays with my ex's mother on the nights that I work ( I have no one else to keep her & they enjoy time with her) Working nights takes a lot of time away from my daughter that she has been used to having her entire life until recently.
I really do not want to have to leave my job because of this and cant really afford to take the pay cut that I would have to take to go elsewhere...I have asked to be transfered back to days with no results.
*Anyone have any sugguestions on how to fix some of these bahavior problems? or suggestions on what I should do?


Ez - posted on 12/07/2011




I am a single mum who is planning to go back to uni next year to do Midwifery. Which will mean night shifts once I graduate in three years. It has definitely been a consideration in making this decision. But my daughter will be a older (she will be almost 6 when I finish), and my mum will be retired by then so I am confident that things will work out.

Being a single mother is different. And hard. It sounds like you are doing the very best you can to provide for your daughter, and while it may be hard right now, she will thank you for it later. At least that's my attitude to it.

Being a full-time student, part-time medical secretary and full-time single mumma is going to be a huge challenge for me. But it is a short term sacrifice for a very big long term gain. I have to focus on that, and you should too.

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