Any Step parents with teenage step daughters that show more affection toward there father then they should


Margot - posted on 02/26/2012




I would be primarily concerned for the daughter. That kind of behaviour is not natural. Wether it has anything to do with your husband is not the point, it sounds like the behaviour of a confused and mixed up child. Has she learnt to seek affection and security in inappropriate ways? Protection and concern for her wellbeing should be addressed immediately.

I hope you address this also for your sake but also hers. Too many children are not given the appropriate help when the signs are staring us in the face that they need it.

Good luck

Krista - posted on 02/26/2012




She is behaving VERY inappropriately towards him, and the fact that he doesn't even acknowledge or see that is very alarming. And they take off together and don't tell anybody where they're going?

Yeah, I would be pretty darned concerned. I would try approaching him one more time, but make it about her behaviour, not his, so that he doesn't get as defensive. Just say that you are worried that she doesn't seem to recognize natural father-daughter boundaries, and that it might give other people the wrong idea. If he still blusters and denies it, then I would recommend that you go see a marriage counselor, even if it's by yourself, to figure out how to address this.


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Amy - posted on 02/26/2012




Does bio mom know where her daughter is? You say he helped her runaway, if not I would contact bio mom so she can get her daughter back, that's if your husband hasn't gone through the appropriate channels.

Otherwise do as krista say approach your husband when bio daughter isn't right there and make it about her behavior. If he doesn't want to listen you need to seek counseling for yourself and make a decision about how much you are willing to put up with. No one should be running off alone without saying where they're going, if everyone is around you should be doing stuff as a family!

Bonnie - posted on 02/26/2012




Okay, that does not sound right to me at all. Not only does it sound like she is acting like a 5 year old or younger, but kissing his neck, touching his rear end, thighs, and stomach is just totally inappropriate no questions asked.

It also doesn't make sense that he would jump to conclusions that you are accusing him of incest. It kind of sounds like he may be hiding something.

Vanessa - posted on 02/25/2012




My husband is the biological father and helped his 16 year old daughter run away from her mother 6 months ago. At first I thought that she was just being really clingy because of the years they had been apart. An

d her needing a sense of security, but as time has passed i have seen her. Lay on him like a new born baby rub his chest kiss his neck she constantly is hanging on him and trys to be anywhere he is at all times even as much as sitting outside of the bathroom. Until lately she would come into our bedroom and sit till she has to be told to go to bed i have caught her touching his rear end and thighs, and just standing and running her fingers over his chest and stomach. I have approach him about it and he flipped out saying i was accusing him of insest Which is not what i said, only , that i was concerned about he lack his part to stop it. This behavior has as cause strain our marriage of 13 years not to mention now they just leave and even go and dose not, tell anyone where they are going

They spend all their time together, my boys have commented on the way they act. Is this natural or is it me? Please help me understand why I feel like his daughter and not like his wife.

Bonnie - posted on 02/25/2012




Yeah what do you consider to be too much affection? It depends on what you are referring to?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2012




Towards their biological father? Or step father? What is too much affection?

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