Anyone have good suggestions for dealing with a 3 year olds' fear of sleeping in her room by herself - she does not want to be

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User - posted on 03/16/2009

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Hi there. Gosh i really feel for you and your little girl. Wondering if she has a favourite bed toy to snuggle with, to give her comfort, and know that she's not alone? My 3 yr old settled a little easier with a snuggly soft bear to sleep with. i also had a dimmer put in so I could leave the light on but dim it right down. People kept saying to me that leaving the light on can start it being an every night thing, but if it helps my daughter settle and go to sleep without fear, then I see nothing wrong with it. i also put a few drops of lavender oil on a tissue and leave it in her room. It's known to be relaxing and I was willing to try anything at the time. A combination of all of the above seemed to work for me and left her room smelling beautiful too! Good luck with everything and i hope she settle soon. ooo

Bonnie - posted on 03/16/2009

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I have a family bed, personally. What is your child's fear? is it the dark, the noises or monsters? If it's monsters, make"monster spray" if it's weird noises try a running fan, and night lights for the dark.

Sunny - posted on 03/16/2009

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I put my daughters bed next to mine for a week and then every night after i would move it slowly farther and farther down the hallway and eventually it was in her room and so was she. never complained and sleeps in her room every night now. It took about 2 weeks but it worked.

Carrie - posted on 03/16/2009

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It's been a long time but here is what I did. night light, door open, classical music, same routine everynight with a baby massage, read a book, talk about how safe she/he is, sing. go in and out of the room quielty several times. Before bed was a very calming time, low lights, music etc.

Kylie - posted on 03/16/2009

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Hi, is your daughter actually scared of something in the room,  like maybe thinking there is a monster or something in the room?  My son when he was about 4 was scared of monsters in the cupboard so my brother pretended to catch the monster in a bag while he was watching and put the bag in the boot and took it home with him.  Since then he has not had any monsters visiting him.  Aparaetly fly spray also works, spray it around the room as a safe guard from all bad things as this protects anyone in the cirle of spray, good luck!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2009

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If the fear is of "scary" stuff try this . . . take a spray bottle, let her decorate it (glitter, stickers, etc.) and make a tag that says "Monster Spray," "Monster Repellant" or what ever her fear is. Then put water in it and a little room fragrance if you have it. At bed time let her spray under the bed, in the closet, etc. to keep all those scary things away!

Dawn - posted on 03/16/2009

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My 4 year old was having the same problem, so I tried the "Build a Chain" reward system. The idea is to add links on a chain everytime the child sleeps all night in his/her own bed. I printed strips of paper that say " I slept in my own bed all night",and tacked a "blank" ring to the ceiling beside my son's bed. I explained that he is a big boy and big boys sleep in their own beds. Then I sat him down with the Sears Wish Book and let him pick out a toy that he REALLY wants. Then everytime he sleeps all night in his bed we add a "link" to his chain. When the chain hits the floor he gets the toy. Worked wonders!

Rachel - posted on 03/16/2009

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Try taking her to the shops and letting her choose her own bedding and matching lamp shade. It worked for my 4 year old.

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