are doughter is going on her honeymoon

Ev - posted on 01/07/2015

My parents babysat for me when I was working and my ex husband was also working. But soon we had to learn that they would not always be available. Over time we had to find other alternate people to watch the kids so we could work. My daughter lives in her inlaws home so they do have babysitters on the times they need one. THey also have other things worked out too. But it is not your responsible area it is hers. She should have come to you a long time ago when she was first asked to get married to have you babysit and worked something out and if you were not able then she would have had time to find someone else.

Ev - posted on 01/09/2015

Your daughter sounds like the world revolves around her from what you say in your posts and expects everyone to drop everything to do her biding. That is not right either. I have two grandkids myself and understand that sometimes you feel bad when you can not do things, but my daughter does not hold it over me either. Somewhere growing up, did she ever just get things her way all the time and now expects the same as an adult and why is she not working?

Ken - posted on 01/08/2015

It's not that we do not want to babysit with three it a bit hard.You try to do anything you for are kids.just hurt my wife and i when she says things like she get the boyfriends mum to babysit we say ok but it's hard for her as well we do not talk with them after they attack my family one year I was in hospital for 3day broken ankel .he's mum has not been there 4years we have been doing all we can.not that we do not want to just hard with 3 grandkids and my daughter doesn't work. She go's to the gym, solaream, get her hair etc and we love are grandkids my daughter will pop out nowwere and can we babysit and if we are not well at the time wife feels bad if she say no I do to.we still do we will do that for are doughter but in November she wants us to babysit she go's on a cruise my wife said we will see she got upset so am a lost

Jodi - posted on 01/06/2015

LOL, I'm lucky, my parents will take 3 or 4 of their grandkids at a time (sometimes more, the cousins all getting together). It's nice that they do it, but I never feel entitled to it. But my MIL and FIL are too elderly to be able to.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/06/2015

My mother babysat my kids ONCE in 15 years. My MIL would come at the drop of a hat, but my mother, not so much.

It's not grandma & Grandpa's responsibility, either. If you and your wife are not comfortable babysitting, you don't have to. Your daughter needs to grow up.

Jodi - posted on 01/06/2015

Personally, I think it would be nice of you to look after the children while she has her honeymoon, but if it isn't possible, then she really shouldn't feel she is ENTITLED to expect you too by getting all upset over it. This is part of choosing to marry after you've had the children. However, it would be nice if you could do it for her.

On the other hand, it is quite despicable of her to use your grandchildren as pawns for not getting her own way. She shouldn't be holding them to ransom like that. She needs to grow up. Have you checked the grandparents rights laws where you live? Grandparents rights are becoming more common and if she does follow though on her threats there is a chance you can apply for visitation whether she likes it or not.

Michelle - posted on 01/06/2015

Well I have 3 children and my Mother has never looked after all 3!!
I am the one who had children so I am the one that should be looking after them. Don't get me wrong, we do go out on date nights once or twice a year but all the other times we are with the children.
Let her know that you are still raising your own children and she should be doing the same.