are doughter is going on her honeymoon

Ken - posted on 01/06/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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She what's us to babysit for a week. 3boys age 5,4,18 months. We have are sons at home 19 years and 14 year we are geting told by me doughter that every other parent would we did say no but after her honeymoon she would want us to babsit again in November wife said we will see but are doughter gets upset because my wife did not jump to say ok. Me the father I think bad luck we help many times she needed us I just want to move away from here am sick of my doughter gets what she wants I want to leave if we say no my daughter says use will no see the grandkids I get really angry I feel like moving away and I will one day what should we do help help

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Ken - posted on 01/08/2015

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It's not that we do not want to babysit with three it a bit hard.You try to do anything you for are kids.just hurt my wife and i when she says things like she get the boyfriends mum to babysit we say ok but it's hard for her as well we do not talk with them after they attack my family one year I was in hospital for 3day broken ankel .he's mum has not been there 4years we have been doing all we can.not that we do not want to just hard with 3 grandkids and my daughter doesn't work. She go's to the gym, solaream, get her hair etc and we love are grandkids my daughter will pop out nowwere and can we babysit and if we are not well at the time wife feels bad if she say no I do to.we still do we will do that for are doughter but in November she wants us to babysit she go's on a cruise my wife said we will see she got upset so am a lost

Jodi - posted on 01/06/2015

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LOL, I'm lucky, my parents will take 3 or 4 of their grandkids at a time (sometimes more, the cousins all getting together). It's nice that they do it, but I never feel entitled to it. But my MIL and FIL are too elderly to be able to.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/06/2015

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My mother babysat my kids ONCE in 15 years. My MIL would come at the drop of a hat, but my mother, not so much.

It's not grandma & Grandpa's responsibility, either. If you and your wife are not comfortable babysitting, you don't have to. Your daughter needs to grow up.

Jodi - posted on 01/06/2015

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Personally, I think it would be nice of you to look after the children while she has her honeymoon, but if it isn't possible, then she really shouldn't feel she is ENTITLED to expect you too by getting all upset over it. This is part of choosing to marry after you've had the children. However, it would be nice if you could do it for her.

On the other hand, it is quite despicable of her to use your grandchildren as pawns for not getting her own way. She shouldn't be holding them to ransom like that. She needs to grow up. Have you checked the grandparents rights laws where you live? Grandparents rights are becoming more common and if she does follow though on her threats there is a chance you can apply for visitation whether she likes it or not.

Michelle - posted on 01/06/2015

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Well I have 3 children and my Mother has never looked after all 3!!
I am the one who had children so I am the one that should be looking after them. Don't get me wrong, we do go out on date nights once or twice a year but all the other times we are with the children.
Let her know that you are still raising your own children and she should be doing the same.

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