Are there any Moms out there who have to pay child support, but need to be at home with other children?

Allie - posted on 03/11/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




My ex husband won a long and drawn out custody battle over our daughter. He did it in revenge after I remarried. He told me if I got remarried he would take our daughter away and he was true to his promise. He has a lot more money and time than I do, so he won in court. Now, I am left to pick up the pieces of my life. I must pay child support and that requires me to work full time. However, my current husband and I have two children and his mother is disabled. I have been the primary caregiver for the children and his mother and I was fine with that. It works better for me to be at home to take care of the household and my family. My ex does not need the money I give him. I know for a fact he uses it to play golf with. I feel depressed and overwhelmed because my new work schedule makes it so that I feel like I am running in every direction to work and take care of my family and on top of that, I never get to see my daughter that I am supporting. Help? Is there anyone out there who knows how I feel and what I should do?


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/11/2015




Ditto Evelyn. I couldn't have stated it better, myself.

1) Your responsibility for supporting your daughter did not change. Her primary custodian did, but you are obligated to support her, just as he was obligated when she lived with you.
2) Your responsibility did not diminish simply because you took on care of two other children and a disabled MIL.

You expected support from him, regardless of his situation, when you were primary custodial parent, correct?

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