Are week night(5pm-8pm) birthday parties appropriate for 5-7 year olds?

Jean - posted on 04/16/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




Help in settling a disagreement with my husband please...We have a 5 year old son in junior kindergarten and a 7 year old son in grade 1. Between the two boys they seem to be invited to at least one birthday party per week. Last week on a Wednesday night with school the following morning my husband thought it fine for our 7 year old to attend a 5pm-7pm birthday party. I disagreed. Needless to say my son attended this party. This week our 5 year old has been invited to a birthday party after school on Friday from 6pm-8pm. Again my husband believes this to be fine and has rsvp'd our 5 year old will be attending. I again disagree. Am I wrong in disagreeing with my husband about this?
Thank you for your advice, Jean.


User - posted on 02/26/2013




Its fine to attend a party during the week. You have to consider the birthday child. They may have parents who work weekends or have other obligations on weekends or custody issues. Think of the Birthday kid, have compassion, and take your kid to the party.

Bonnie - posted on 04/16/2012




It does seem odd that parents would make a party in the evening period. They are not teenagers, not even preteens. Any birthday parties I have heard of are usually sometime between 12pm and 5pm for kids. I, more than likely would not allow my child to go if the party is in the evening. They need that time for family time and to wind down to get to bed.

Alison - posted on 04/16/2012




First of all, it is never wrong to disagree with your husband. ;)

I would not be thrilled if my girls were invited to weeknight parties, but these don't seem all that unreasonable. There were two birthday parties two weeks in a row, but is this really happening once a week or are you blowing things out of proportion?

In my opinion, this may not be a fight worth fighting. Try to look for a compromise, rather than being entirely inflexible, as it seems you are at opposite ends of the spectrum right now. Figure out specifically what bothers you about this time slot and see if your husband has any solutions to that problem.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/16/2012




I think it's fine, except that it happens every week. That's a lot! We're actually going to a birthday party for my niece who's turning two today. My 2-year-old is coming, too. It's from 6-8, but we'll probably leave a little early so that he can get to bed more on time. If it's once in a while I don't see the problem.


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Liz - posted on 02/26/2013




I think a week day party undermines the prioritisation of school and of normal family and bedtime routine. When my daughter is a teen, she most certainly will not be permitted to go out to anything on a school night, so the rule ought to be unambiguous right from the start. This also smacks of a sense of entitlement on the part of the family hosting the party if their reason is that it has to be on the birthday. Why couldn't they host it on the weekend before or after, like most normal people have to do when they have obligations like a job or full time school?

I would not be able to take my kid to a week day party in any case, whether I wanted to or not, because of when my husband is at work and when the car is available.

If I were a parent who normally worked at the weekend, I'd request the day off for my kid's birthday party. It's not as if the date is ever a surprise and it can be requested waaaay in advance!

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