At what age should chores and allowances start?

Sharon - posted on 01/24/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




We want our children to do chores around the house in order to learn responsibility and the importance of helping others. We also want to teach them the value of money and how to save. But, we want our children to do some things b/c we say so and b/c they are a part of this family and not b/c they are going to get paid for it. But then we would be giving them an allowance for nothing? HELP!!


Amber - posted on 01/24/2011




My son is 4, but he already has some chores to do. He has to pick up his own toys and clear his own spot from the table. If he makes a mess, he must help to clean it up. These things he doesn't get paid for.

When he helps me put away the dishes or laundry, picks up something for mommy or daddy, or helps to sweep or vaccuum he gets a dollar. He is allowed to spend this money when it accumulates.

He has a savings accoung that we contribute to monthly. As he gets older and receives more than just a dollar here and there, we'll have him start contributing to savings also. It won't be his entire allowance, but part of it.

Children need to learn to spend money responsibly, and by saving part and allowing them to spend part they start to learn that. They won't be able to save 100% of what they make as an adult, so they need to learn to make smart purchases when young.


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Kristan - posted on 01/26/2011




We had a chart also. You are on the right track.Just don't go over the top with the allowance. Ten dollars a week if they donedone theirs and extra without asking. Remember you have to pay bases on your paychecks, not what other parents give their kids. You don't need to keep up with the Jones & they need to learn that also. They also need do give 110% at their effort too. There are too many whinny lazy adults that had parents that never were pushed. Keep up the good work. Consaquaintance for their actions can be taught too.

Lakisha - posted on 01/26/2011




I would base their allowance a certain amount every week, or every two weeks. Set a price for the allowance. And then set doen with the children and tell them that the have chores in the house, and a chart will be made for everyone chores. They would have to check off each day and their chores will be inspected. Tell them that their allowance will be based on, their school performance, their chores performance , and how well they listen to the parents,. That if they fell behind there allowance can be less than what they are suppose to get, as the consequence of falling behind. Five years old is a perfect age to start having them to do chores.

Kristan - posted on 01/26/2011




My started cleaning their room by the age of 3-4 yrs, then at 7 little things like feeding the dogs & one day week doing dishes. We gave them a dollar if they did extra chores Luke raking, & garbage,,dusting. Etc. We also would trade allowance for games or other toys too. Bedrooms by the age of 5 should be their responsibility as cleaning up their dishes. Hope this helps.

Kathy - posted on 01/24/2011




Our kids are expected to keep their rooms picked up, take care of their dinner dishes, and pick up after themselves-especially before bed. My daughter also does her own laundry since she is a typical teen and hoards it in her room. We usually ask each of them to do an extra thing around the house each day-dishes, take out trash, snow-blow (my son's favorite). This is part of being a family, helping run the house. There is no allowance. My daughter can earn money by doing extra chores or babysitting. My son can earn extra money by doing extra chores. This is where cleaning the bathrooms, sweeping & mopping, mowing all come in. If they want $20, they do $20 worth of work. They can spend this money how they wish (ok we do monitor so a huge bag of candy doesn't show up) but my daughter has learned to save for school dances. My son has learned to save for bigger toys. It works well and I don't have to worry about chore lists and allowances!

Katherine - posted on 01/24/2011




Make a list of chores and make a list of paid chores. They have to do both to get paid, it's that simple. Then they put it in a piggy bank or whatever and it goes in the bank. I would allow them to keep a nominal amount for themselves.

Tyrae - posted on 01/24/2011




Truthfully, it depends on what you are getting your children to do for chores as to what age you should start them at it. If it's just cleaning their room regularly you can start really early for that, but I wouldn't get them to do the dishes or clean the washroom until around 10. If they are sweeping the floor or mopping they could probably start around 6-7.
When I was growing up my sisters, step brothers and I all had chores and none of us got an allowance for it. If you want to give them an allowance I would put it straight into a bank account for them. Explain to them about saving, what the account is for, and that when they get older they can have the money. It shows them the importance of saving, keeps the major responsibilty of it off their shoulders though, and when they do get to that age they will see what waiting truly did for all that money. They could use it for school, a down payment on a house, or a car.

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