Ashley - posted on 03/09/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




So my husband and I have been married for 4 years and we've been together for 8. He has a 13 year old son and I have a 11 and 10 year old sons. We talk about having a baby but he keeps saying that as soon as we get a few things paid off we will. Then he keeps buying big items and it seems as though he's just going to keep doing it until I'm too old. I'm turning 30 next month and I'm constantly hearing the tick of a clock. Any ideas on how to deal with this? It's starting to affect our sex life and it's not in a good way.


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Ashley - posted on 03/09/2014




We did talk about it and it was an option. I just never felt like a mom because I lost my kids in a nasty divorce when they were 1 and 2. It's hard for me and I don't think that he realizes how hard it is to bear the marks if motherhood without the satisfaction if being with your kids every day as they grow. I just want to know that feeling and the more I try to explain the more upset I get.

Ev - posted on 03/09/2014




You and he should have sat down and talked about adding to your family a long time ago before you got married and blended the kids you both have right now. You should have told him how you felt about this and he should have given you the same. You should have set a time frame to pay off debts and other things so that after you could start to plan for a child together. Does he really want another one? You need to ask him this. Also, a lot of women are waiting into their 30's and 40's to have kids and do so successfully. Its a bit harder to conceive, I have been told, but not impossible. Also the health risks can be higher. But that depends on the woman too.

Best advice is to talk to him.

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